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| Mon, 03-13-2006 - 7:25pm |
I've been in a relationship for 6 months now with a really good guy. He's everything I wanted in a man. Lately, the realtionship seems stale. Doing the same things, etc. I've made suggestions of new places to go to, etc. only to get turned down. I even spend Sunday doing something with a friend that he didn't want to do.
Well, I guess I reached my frustration threshold and on Sat. told him that this wasn't working for me. I wasn't interested in a relationship where I just spend Fri and Sat nights with him. Yes, I can find other people to do things with but what's the point in being in a relationship. We didn't end things because I told him this wasn't entirely up to me.
There were some other issues also but this was the main one. I didn't end it with him because I felt I needed to let him know how I felt and whether this was something we could work on or not. He could have ended things but didn't.
I feel kinda of guilty in the way I handled it by just coming out and saying this isn't working for me but it is the true. That's not the kinda of relationship that I want. I want somebody to do things with, day trips, weekend trips, etc. I'm not asking for it every weekend but every once in awhile would be nice. Am I asking or expecting too much?

You're not asking for too much...but it may be too much to expect from THIS guy.
If he's open to trying new things, etc. then he'll make an effort now that you've told him this is an issue for you. If he's not, he won't. And then you'll need to make a decision to either accept him AS IS or move on.
Sheri
how did he react when you told him you wanted to do other things as well (before breakup), is he normally quite inflexible, was he able tocompromise
how did he react when you broke up with him
it's very normal to want to do different things with theperson you're involved with - that's how you build a history together