will it turn into anything?

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Registered: 07-08-2006
will it turn into anything?
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Sat, 06-09-2007 - 10:57pm

I just recently got out of a 4 year relationship and starting dating again. I talk to a few guys and go on dates once and a while. But there is this one guy who i met two years ago when me and my boyfriend were broken off and i ran into him a few months back when me and my boyfriend were still together. And for the record me and my ex r not getting back together this time. So anyway the new guy, when we met two years ago he was home from college and i knew it was not going to turn into anything serious. Now he just graduated so he's home for good. When i told him that i was single he asked me to hang out right way. SInce then we have been hanging out about once a week. We usually do something simple like see a movie, get something to eat, and than we go back to his place. We have "hooked up" but have not had sex. I am starting to really like him. He he very respectful, nice, funny, smart, good looking, and we have a good time together. He is always complementing me and asking questions like he wants to know whats going on in my life. I just don't know if he wants anything serious. I was thinking that maybe he ask me to hang out when he has nothing else to do. But the last few times he told me his friends asked him to go out but he didn't want to. I guess i am wondering does this sound like a guy that wants something more or is he just stringing me along?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-30-2006
Sun, 06-10-2007 - 9:17pm
He sounds interested in you, but you have to take the moment for what it is...you two are getting to know each other. Since he seems to be pretty demonstrative with compliments and asking questions about your life, he may also express to you eventually where he sees the two of you fitting into his life. I know it is so hard to think about a guy and not wonder where it is going, if it is going anywhere. Women tend to jump into the future and then they operate in the relationship as though it is already the future and that is when they lose the guy. It takes discipline to stay focused on the "here and now" aspect of what you are experiencing with him, but if you dont' do that you will miss the "here and now" - it will pass you by while you are thinking about "future". Guys are much better at this than we are.