Will she come back
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Will she come back
| Tue, 07-20-2004 - 12:35am |
I had dated this girl for about a year and a half or longer. I made a lot of mistakes along the way, such as not thinking she was the one and taking a "break" from our relationship, which basically lasted for about a week or 2 at most and then wed get back together. This happened a fewe times, till the last time when i decided we really did need a break. I then thought i liked a friend of mine, for about 2 weeks is all, but nothing ever stemmed from it and i realized that my love for the past year and a half or so was what i really wanted. I have spent the last 2 and a half months trying to mend things back together. I however only made many failed attempts and when I was coming home for her birthday a week ago she informed me she liked somebody else and that she cant promise we will ever get back together. This guy definately doesnt have what she wants, but is something for her thats new right now. Shes 21 hes 28 with a kid and has a crummy job. I dont fear they will be together very long however she has lately been extremely rude and mean to me. The other day we hung out for about an hour and she was nice to me and said she missed me and hugged me and kissed me on the cheek. I thought things were good, but then i called her 3 days ago and she was with a friend of hers who has a total negative effect on her and she was a total bitch to me again. HELP!!!!!

we, females, need assurance in the relationships we are in, and a guy who can't decide what he wants and who clearly shows that there are other options he is going to consider, can't provide that assurance i'm afraid. how can she be sure that tomorrow you won't change your mind again and won't say that you need yet another break?
my suggestion would be to not to interfere in her new relationship (you don't know this guy, maybe he is great for her - having a kid and no CEO job doesn't make him a jerk) and would move on
all the best
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You can't really blame this girl for
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So you left this girl and sought out another girl that you liked, but when THAT didn't work out you wanted to get back together with the one waiting on the side- but SURPRISE! she wasn't waiting anymore.
Hopefully next time you meet a great girl you won't be looking for something better to come along. Look at what you have in front of you, and if it's not what you're looking for, let it go. Keeping someone around as the *fall back* isn't fair. How come you have a right to move on so easily but they don't???
I wish your ex all the happiness with this new guy, and wish you all the best in your next relationship.