will time change things??

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Registered: 03-11-2004
will time change things??
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Thu, 03-11-2004 - 10:11pm
my boyfriend of 1 and a half years broke up with me last week and i am completely heart broken, but many are surprised by this, me especially. I acted like a child throughout our relationship and he worshipped the ground i walked on. Even when he asked me to move in with him i made up some cheesy excuse while meanwhile i really wanted to. I fear that being so guarded and childish may have pushed him away.

I now feel completely lost and although we have talked and he wants to be friends i really want us to get back together, but more than that i want us to start over, fresh.

I know many people who after time have reconciled their relationships. He says that he doesn't see us getting back together any time soon but maybe in the future. Should I give up or fight for the one i truly love???

Please help!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-07-2003
Fri, 03-12-2004 - 1:05am
I think that you have no choice but to accept that he doesn't want to be with you anymore. He has told you that. Please don't read his words to mean anything else. And I don't think that you can be friends with him right now given that you still want to get back together with him. I think that you need some time apart. Tell him that you need that and ask him not to call/email/IM you for awhile, and if he does so, ignore and/or block.

And take some time to evaluate your own behavior. I don't think that moving in together before engagement/marriage is a good idea, to be honest, but I don't understand why you wanted to do it but told him you didn't. It doesn't add up - I guess this is what you meant about behaving like a child? You might want to ponder why you do things like this and how to avoid it in the future.