Win back guy when you broke it off

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Registered: 11-27-2006
Win back guy when you broke it off
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Sat, 05-19-2007 - 4:43pm

I met a really super nice guy last summer and had a pretty hot and heavy quick relationship with him, but it was right after my marriage ended and because of that in Nov I broke things off and then we got back together for a couple weeks and I broke it off again---anyways months later I miss him and realize what a great fit we were together, but I was not emotional available to him. I would hope to get advice on how to win him back?

He has agreed to go to lunch with me in a couple weeks after an awkward phone call. I screwed up big even left him in florida in january because my emotions were crazy, but now that I went to therapy and been feeling great the past couple of months, and dating other guys I miss him.

Thank you for your time and advise!

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Thu, 07-12-2007 - 9:42pm

I think you are your own best counsel because you obviously did something right for things to be going well.

As far as butterflies go, you are not the only person to experience them and it means you obviously care a great deal for him. Butterflies in tummy can mean you are falling in love or it means that the person kind of scares you...in a good way (just prior to realizing you already fell for the person). We all have one or two in our past or present who has the ability to overwhelm you in such a way that your mind and is taken over by your heart. It leaves you vulnerable. And the thought of losing them is awful.

In time things at work will settle into a comfortable situation where you and he can be yourselves without being concerned about what others think. He may remain calm on the outside but he could be a wreck inside. Guys are good that way.

"He keeps telling me that he enjoys spending time with me, yet nothing more than that (for over a month now)." ---> he asked you to be his GF again...isnt that moving forward?

Just keep doing what you've been doing.

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Registered: 07-04-2007
Fri, 07-13-2007 - 7:52am
take it easy..stop feeling insecure that's when you will not knee jerk and do something silly...enjoy the fun time at the beginning of the relationship

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