winning her back

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Registered: 05-12-2004
winning her back
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Wed, 05-12-2004 - 4:00pm
Here is my situation. My girlfriend broke things off 2 weeks ago because she felt something was missing in our relationship. Back in March she broke it off for the same reason, but we got back together a week later because she felt she made a mistake. I was naive enough to think that I wasn't the problem, but this time has opened my eyes. Even though I treated her awesome, I never did the little things. If she wanted to rent a chick flick, I said "no way". I rarely did nice things for her like send her flowers, give her a card for no reason or just tell her how I felt. As a result, she gave up on me. This week I decided to do something special for her each day, just to let her know I am at least capable of being romantic and thoughtful. Last night she delivered the final blow, saying it was too late. So, I am prepared to walk away although I know we have something special. Have I done all I could to get back with her?
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 05-12-2004 - 4:41pm
Please respect her wishes and let her go. It would be the best thing for both of you, honestly. When she said something is missing she probably didn't mean flowers and chick flicks. She probably meant something that cannot be manufactured, something that is a necessity for her but is not present for her, with you. That doesn't mean you're a bad person or that you've done anything wrong. You probably have been a good bf and that's why she gave it another try earlier this year. Sometimes 2 really nice and great people are just not right for one another, despite enjoying one another's company, caring for one another, even loving one another. It happens all the time. It takes many, many things to make 2 people right for one another and most importantly that must be a mutual feeling. If she feels you are not the right person for her (for whatever reason) then you're not; and conversely she can't be right for you either then. Because the right woman for you is a woman who KNOWS you are the one she wants to be with, and for her, nothing will be missing. Please let this go, heal from the loss, learn something from the experience, take away good things from it and move on to find someone who WILL be right for you. Hugs and good luck.
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Registered: 07-24-2003
Wed, 05-12-2004 - 7:44pm

You know, she might not even know what it is that is missing... it is a feeling and sometimes it's not easily described...