Women are so "Territorial"

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Registered: 05-21-2004
Women are so "Territorial"
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Tue, 08-10-2004 - 3:26am
None of my female friends will introduce me to they're female friends. They'll show me pictures of them hanging out or something, and im like "hey, what's her name, lets hang out". When i do that, they blow me off and wont introduce me to them. Why?

It's like that saying "if i cant have you, nobody will"...and they use that against me. Most of my female friends want a relationship with me, and i dont, because they are my friends. I wont cross that line and probably burn some bridges. But i do want to meet some of there friends so we can be friends too.

Why is this so difficult?

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Registered: 07-13-2004
Tue, 08-10-2004 - 9:37am
Maybe they think you have an 'alpha male' attitude and want to be leader of all of them and they like the friendship dynamic they have now.

"Most of my female friends want a relationship..."

But I'm guessing your numerous female friends have seen you working the ladies in the clubs.

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Registered: 06-05-2004
Tue, 08-10-2004 - 10:30am
Hi,

If your female friends have a crush on you, of course they are not going to want you to meet their friends. It's a sad thing but say you end up liking and ultimately dating one of their friends... everytime she and that friend get together she (the girl you are dating) will probably talk about how things are going between you two and your friend with the crush is going to be crushed. I myself wouldn't do it and I don't consider myself territorial; I'm just cautious with things of the heart. Advise.... if you do meet someone you are totally into... don't tell your female friends all the details. You will hurt them unnecessarily. Lucy

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Registered: 07-28-2004
Tue, 08-10-2004 - 11:11am
Well, if I recall from reading other posts you have made, you are not looking for a relationship, but just casual dating.

Most (a lot) of women want a relationship. I am sure your friends know that you treat these relationships casually, so it will only end up hurting their friends if they fall for you. I wouldn't set you up either.

Not saying it to be mean, just honest.

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Registered: 12-23-2003
Tue, 08-10-2004 - 1:51pm

Perhaps Hannah has it

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Tue, 08-10-2004 - 4:40pm
Maybe they blow you off and won't introduce you because you are overly eager to hang out with their friend. If they have even the slightest interest in you, whether there's a potential for a relationship with you or not, they will not want to suddenly lose you to their friend.

My question is, are you asking to meet these girls just to make more friends, or for some other reason?

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Registered: 05-21-2004
Tue, 08-10-2004 - 4:48pm
Im not playing around with these women nor trying to sleep with them. Those are not my intentions. I get phone calls from them every now and then from different ones in the middle of the night! What's that all about. Im trying to get some sleep. Im nice to them but i dont think im leading them on. They should get the hint. When i do this, i never hear from them again. I have to call them now, because they are mad at me. I have explained to them about being friends and they wont accept that

I like to meet they're friends because i like having lots of female friends. They're more fun to hang out with at clubs, parks etc... One thing i do like to witness is when they act Catty! =)

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Registered: 05-21-2004
Tue, 08-10-2004 - 4:52pm
No im not eager to meet they're friends. I will only mention it once, and they get all pissy with me when i do. My intentions are to be friends with they're gf's. Im not trying to sleep with any of them
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Registered: 12-23-2003
Tue, 08-10-2004 - 5:02pm

Again, I suggest it would be better for you to make female friends in other ways...

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Tue, 08-10-2004 - 8:05pm
You like women to be catty?? So in other words, you like hanging out with the girls to have them all fighting for your attention. And you always flirt with them just enough that they think that they have a chance, but when asked you give them the "just friends" line.

No wonder they get upset and don't talk to you after that.

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Registered: 05-21-2004
Tue, 08-10-2004 - 10:00pm
Not catty over me. Like when we go out to clubs, they get catty when they're a little tipsy, sometimes fighting for another guys attention. Im busy trying to meet other women in the club, but i still spend time with them and dance etc..

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