Women - fact or fiction

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Registered: 07-17-2004
Women - fact or fiction
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Mon, 08-09-2004 - 12:30am
Ran across this article..See what you ladies think. IMO, i think its true

So your out at a club and you meet some hb. Your tall, dark and handsome looking good and confident and women take notice. Your lookin for your victim and you find her. You both make great eye contact, some kino, flirting.......all the signals are there, that she's digging you, and your confident that she wants you

You approach and you get some pretty good convo going despite the loud music. You go for the # and she doesnt hesitate to give it to you. You wait 4-5 days to call her and set up something for the weekend

what are the chances in this situation that this is her right #? Yeah, you might get her answering machine and she may return your call in a proper time frame. If she's into you and you feel it....your pretty confident that she'll return or answer your first call or so

I know that women are that shallow and are looking for a man in they're league if not better. If your outta her league, sure she's gonna be nice and talk to you. She may give you her actual # and avoid your calls because your outta her league. More than likely, she'll give you the wrong # just so you'll leave her alone. You'll just be stroking her ego

Maybe its just me, but i do believe women want a man in they're league, if not better. They wont settle anything for less. If your in her league, more than likely it'll be the right # and she'll respond in a positive manner. If your not in her league.......you can be persistant but you'll end up hurting yourself because she wont respond

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Mon, 08-09-2004 - 12:45am
I think 'in their league' is not the best choice of phrase, because it suggests some sort of superior status, rather than just saying someone may or may not be compatible for any number of reasons.

Because 'in their league' can mean any number of things. Are we talking looks? Financial status? Intelligence?

I think ANY person, female OR male, who is honest with themselves is going to say that of course they're going to go for someone who is their equal ("in their league") or better. Why would they settle for less, unless they themselves underestimate their own self worth?

Requiring a partner who's of equal 'league' or more is not shallow. It says you're confident in yourself, understand your worth and believe you're worthy of a partner who matches your own standards (be that looks, financial, intelligence etc). A partner in a higher 'league' could simply mean that you admire that person for their achievements and you aspire to better yourself and/or them, working together as a team due to similar goals and desires.

Sure, some people view some of these things as status symbols, for example average looking guy with a hot girlfriend, or a young girl with a rich, older lawyer boyfriend. But these are stereotypical and generally not the norm.

Ok, I've waffled on this enough. If a girl likes you, she'll give you her number. If she doesn't, she won't. Simple as that really.

Eve

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Registered: 07-17-2004
Mon, 08-09-2004 - 12:52am
Yes "in they're league" meaning overall status

''''If a girl likes you, she'll give you her number. If she doesn't, she won't. Simple as that really.'''''

Not true, because alot of women will give a guy the wrong #. He then might think that she likes him. He wont know until he attempts a call and gets his answer.

Now if a guy who she considers in her league (overall status)Whats the chances of her giving him the right # and answering/returning calls?

If he's not in her league. She'll give him the wrong # just to make him leave her alone. Women are this cruel? Why not just say "i'm not interested and i dont give out my #"

Why beat around the bush?

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Mon, 08-09-2004 - 1:25am
Yeah, that's what I meant by she won't give the number. Either she just outright won't, or she'll give a wrong one. I don't get why people give the wrong number a) because it might be an easy way to get rid of someone, but it's rude and b) surely if a girl says no more than once, the guy should be cluey enough to work out she's not interested and back off.

If the girl likes the guy, I'd say the chance of giving a phone number is high. That goes without saying. She's not gonna turn down an offer to potentially catch up again with someone she's interested in.

"Why not just say "i'm not interested and i dont give out my #" Why beat around the bush?"

I dunno. I don't get it either.

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Mon, 08-09-2004 - 1:26am
By the way, did you call that girl?

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Registered: 07-17-2004
Mon, 08-09-2004 - 1:47am
Actually i havent called her yet. I got back earlier this evening. I was down in san diego for this weekend but i had my laptop, so i could do some work. I plan on calling her monday and setting up a date for saturday. That'll be 3 days
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Registered: 09-25-2003
Mon, 08-09-2004 - 1:50am
*rolls eyes* LOL

Good luck. :-)

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Registered: 12-23-2003
Mon, 08-09-2004 - 9:33am

What the

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Registered: 07-17-2004
Mon, 08-09-2004 - 4:18pm
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