Women & heels vs. height expectations

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Registered: 05-22-2005
Women & heels vs. height expectations
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Tue, 11-21-2006 - 8:39pm

So what's with all the women who are 5'10" or 5'11" and then insist upon wearing 4 ½”
heels, making them 6’2 ½” or even 6’3 ½” and then saying guys who are "only" 6' or 6'1" are too short??

I mean, I can understand a girl wanting a guy to be a few inches taller...but heels shouldn't count! At least not more than 2 or 3 inches max. It is amazing how many bars and clubs I go to these days and see that more than half of the ladies are taller than the guys because of these big heels!

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Registered: 05-31-2005
Tue, 11-21-2006 - 9:39pm

A lot of women have this requirement and sometimes I think it's because we want to feel protected. When I'm looking for my ideal date, I look for a guy who's taller than me when I wear heels. (Though I don't go to the extreme of wearing 4" heels, mainly because I'd trip! LOL) But honestly, the guy I like right now is shorter than me... For what it's worth, I think that when you like a person, all of those requirements tend to disappear...


I don't know if this helps, but... :o)

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Registered: 04-02-2006
Tue, 11-21-2006 - 9:50pm
Well, since I'm only 5'3" tall I could wear 4" heels with a 3" platform and I'd just hit 6'.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-22-2006 - 4:17pm
Are you sure that these very tall women are actually women and not men in drag? Women who are 5'10" and taller aren't very common, and it surprises me that you meet so many of them. Try going to different clubs.
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Registered: 11-23-2004
Thu, 11-23-2006 - 10:06am

Women in drag...? How feeble-minded can one be?

Anyway, as a woman of a 5'11" stature, I have learned to be proud of my height. Yes, it intimidates some men, hence the preference of dating a man taller than me. The tallest I've dated was 6'2" and won't look at anyone under 6'0". I could sacrifice the 2" heels for a guy, but the sense of protection and the appearance of headship is what drives me towards a tall man. It's been said that the taller you are, the more likely you are to be seen as a leader, despite the movies where the short guy leads and the tall guy is dumb.

I have nothing against shorter men, but everyone has their preferences. The fact that a man is tall is not what attracts me to him, but it's what his height commands that does.




Edited 11/23/2006 3:03 pm ET by slimkim4
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Registered: 12-10-2003
Thu, 11-23-2006 - 11:11am

I'm 5'7" and actually don't like super tall men. I've dated anywhere from 5'4" to 6' and while I'm not into men shorter than me even though they seem to find me attractive, I prefer the 5'9"-6' range and the longest relationship I was in was with someone my own height who I found extremely physically appealing. I never wore heels around him from day one and was fine with it. It's more about physical condition and health than height because I've met plenty of tall men who are in the worse shape and that was a turnoff. I like a man to be my equal so I like looking him eye to eye and yeah, sometimes I do like to wear 2-3" heels which puts me on their level if they fall into my height range. But I always consider how tall the guy is that I'm dating before I whip out the super tall heels.

Women who wear 4" heels I notice tend to be on the short side. And I don't think a club is a place to meet a woman for a relationship. These women are there to have fun with an attractive man so they're going to be superficial about looks I think. I think my height requirement is reasonable though I find it kind of odd that there are women out there under 5'4" who only want to date men 6' and taller. I've had men I dated question that too since these women are passing on some really great guys.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 11-23-2006 - 3:24pm
Actually, I said, "MEN" in drag, not women in drag (would that be women dressed as men?- LOL), but my tongue-in-cheek point was that women of your stature are not that common, and if the OP was finding MANY women at clubs who are 5'10"" and taller AND wearing 3-4 inch heels, he's probably frequenting the wrong nightclubs.
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Registered: 11-23-2004
Thu, 11-23-2006 - 4:14pm
You're right... You did say "men in drag". I just didn't understand why a woman over 5'10" had to be mistaken for a man.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sun, 11-26-2006 - 9:19pm

Well why not look for shorter girls then, in heels or flats? Height or lack of shouldn't make all the difference, right?

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