Wondering if he cares
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Wondering if he cares
| Tue, 09-04-2007 - 8:53am |
I met him on a cruise ship. He's a member of a band that plays in one of the lounges. I've seen him 3 times on cruises and we became friendly. On my last trip I gave him a scrape book about their band that I had found on the internet. He was quite pleased and surprised. We already had exchanged phone numbers and he told me he would call me. I didn't think anything about it and the very next day when I got home he called. I happened to be at work and then he called me back on the weekend. He wanted to know if we could get together for lunch in the city and I told him no at first and then changed my mind. I guess I was nervous. So we met up and had a great time. He insisted on walking back to the train station with me. On the way back he told me that "he thinks about me all the time"; all I could say was "you do" and at this point I took his hand but couldn't say anything. I was afraid I'd say too much. It seemed to me that things were starting to change between us and I was hoping he was interested in me. The first train station I saw I said goodbye and he told me he would call. I said that I would like to say goodbye to him before he goes home. So now I'm anxiously waiting to see if he would or not. But my question is why say something like "I think about you all the time" Doesn't that mean he cares about me??? I really was surprised at that. He only has 2 more trips back. Also he gave me his home telephone number in the Phillipines and told me that I can call him. Just need your advice about this one. Thanks

Just because he thinks about you all the time, doesn't mean that he loves you, it only means that he is attracted to you. He doesn't know you well enough to know if he loves you.
since he lives in the Phillipines, why would you want to get involved romantically with him? How could you date him on a regular schedule?
You are infatuated with him now, but he might be a good friend. It's up to you whether or not you want to have a long distant relationship.
Since he travels, you might be very lonely waiting for him to take you out. good luck
Of course you could still cruise with them; why couldn't you?
Given the logistics of the situation, I would view this as a harmless (but ego-boosting) flirtation. If it ever develops into more than that, great, but I wouldn't expect it to.
If he doesn't contact you again before
Why are you on the internet and not dialing right now.
Call him.
Like right now.
:)
Cristina
Call him when he gets home and ask him to tell you all about his trip, then you can tell him about your week. DON'T ask him what he meant by that statement. He said it once, I'm sure he's expecting it to have sunk in. :)
Tell him you miss him. Just keep the communication going!
This is an update - still haven't heard a word from him.