Work Romance?

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Registered: 11-24-2004
Work Romance?
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Wed, 11-24-2004 - 11:42am

Hi,

I just wanted to know what I could do. I recently met a guy at work, and we hit it off pretty good. We were talking alot, and it felt like we had a lot in common, and he seemed kind of into me. But now I'm not so sure. He's never really asked me out, or even for my number. I wonder if it's because we see each other everyday, and he sits right behind me. Sometimes we have times when we don't even talk at all. I'm wondering if I over do it when I do try to over talk to him. what should I do? I made him brownies, because he recently did a big favor for me, he said I didn't have to but i insisted, so i did. I'm hoping that i'm not pushing things. I just want to see where this could go.....
PLEASE HELP!!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: berniedette
Wed, 11-24-2004 - 12:39pm

berniedette...

Pianoguy doesn't want to 'burst your bubble'---but there ARE some men (and women too) who just want 'friendships' at the workplace. There's nothing wrong with a co-worker being overly polite or inquisitive about your family, hobbies or interests. However, this doesn't mean it's always going to result in a date or two.

Why not just BE YOURSELF? Ask him questions about HIS family, hobbies and interests, but don't look at the relationship any deeper. If the man is HONESTLY interested in you, he'll eventually 'come around!'

Best wishes and warm thoughts...

Pianoguy

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In reply to: berniedette
Wed, 11-24-2004 - 12:57pm
I think I'd just continue to be friendly and professional with him and don't push it or go out of my way for him.
He may be trying to keep a low profile because you two work together.
You already made brownies for him. Leave it at that and just be cordial, friendly and approachable.
If he wants more, let him do some work.