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working with an ex help
| Wed, 10-27-2004 - 5:50pm |
My ex and I broke up 10 months ago (specifically he broke up with me). On the outside I have done everything possible to move on (including dating someone else for 4 months). I tried therapy, I have concentrated on my hobbies and meeting new friends and joining clubs, etc. However, I am having a hard time at work. I get depressed and I feel like can I never get closure and am constantly reminded of the past.
I like many things about my job and feel like it is a stepping stone in my career.
I guess I'm just wondering if it is possible to survive this? It seems like a trivial experience when I think of all the suffering in the world, but I'm just finding it so difficult to get past it. (I have been looking for another job too which seems like the only solution, but haven't found anything).
I like many things about my job and feel like it is a stepping stone in my career.
I guess I'm just wondering if it is possible to survive this? It seems like a trivial experience when I think of all the suffering in the world, but I'm just finding it so difficult to get past it. (I have been looking for another job too which seems like the only solution, but haven't found anything).

Pianoguy suggests you abandon any and all ideas about closure. It's something YOU WON'T GET...and the more you think about it, the more MISERABLE you'll become. Focus on more important things.
If you're permitted the use of a walkman with a headset...and you can work comfortably with a bunch of your favorite CD's playing between your ears...do this! The music will cancel out a lot of the unhappy memories....and is great therapy! If the job you're doing IS the "stepping stone" you indicated...DON'T ABANDON IT BECAUSE OF A BAD RELATIONSHIP! "Hold On For One More Day" (quoting Wilson Phillips here)
Another music note:
Several years ago, Gloria Gaynor recorded a megahit song which was called: "I WILL SURVIVE"---Believe it or not, Katie...YOU WILL TOO!
Best wishes and warm thoughts,
Pianoguy