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Worried
| Sat, 12-18-2004 - 3:34pm |
I'm 26 years old (new to this board)and I don't know what to do. I guess it's the holidays, but I'm so worried and scared that I will never meet anyone that loves me for me. I've been crying most of the day thinking that I will be alone forever.
I don't date much and I'm a very shy person. I guess I'm not very good at meeting people. I try to go to places where there are people, such as the library, church, the bookstore.
Am I doing something wrong, going to the wrong places to meet people (men) or what? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
lizzie

I'm single too. And I'm 31! I worry about the same things too. However, rather than constantly worrying about it, I'm trying to take a page out of the books from my girlfriends who are still single and who are succesfully dating--I go out, I do the things I like to do, I take the time for me and rather than being lonely, focus on enjoying the time I have with myself. I work on the relationships I have with family and friends and I am finding happiness in doing so. Not that every moment is wonderful, but I'm learning how to completely love me.
I do believe that the more comfortable I am in my skin, the sooner I will find someone to share life with. And if I don't, at least I won't be miserable with my life.
So my suggestion to you is focus on getting out, making new friends, keeping the old ones, focus on your interests, grow yourself and I do think the right guy will come along. Something my brother told me once that I've never forgotten is that we can't expect the person we want to come along unless we are already the people we are seeking.
Hope this helps.
Good luck and have a merry Christmas.
Dragonsbabyblue
Thank you. I knew this would be the place to find good advice and compassion. I am going back to school in January (for work purposes) at a regional campus and hopefully that will breed new friends and I'm also trying to become more invovled at my church.
I guess it's partly the season that is getting me down, but I appreciate all of your advice and compassion, I am truely greatful for this place.
Thank you again and have a wonderful Christmas.
lizzie