worse breakup than usual

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Registered: 01-21-2004
worse breakup than usual
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Thu, 11-10-2005 - 5:27pm
my boyfriend and me broke up a short time ago. i'm very sad, as for every breakup, but this time i feel worse, because i just want to give up on everything : my studies, my friends, my family... i just want to sleep all day and do nothing. i've never been in this state before, because i usually have a "fighter" spirit so i can get on with my other activities and feel better. but now i feel like i'm sliding towards this very dangerous path where i just give up on my life. i'm not interested in anything or anyone anymore. on top of that, i'm in law school, and each day lost in crying means i'm closer to failing at the end of the year, although i used to love what i chose to study ! what am i supposed to do ? i want to be the funny, optimistic girl i once was...
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Registered: 03-03-2004
Thu, 11-10-2005 - 10:01pm
It sounds like your bf may have taken some of your self-respect. You made need some counseling or such to get through this. Your bf may have worn down your self-worth in subtle or not so subtle ways. I've been reading about women who are competent, successful, respected, then they marry a man who literally make them fall-apart. I'd be careful about laying any blame on yourself. Try to recognize what he's done to you. Get help if you need to. You don't deserve to feel this way!
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Registered: 11-24-2004
Fri, 11-11-2005 - 12:50pm
I've been there, myself. I lost all interest in everything and I literally couldn't eat. I had gotten rail thin. Anyway, after a few months of this lethargy, I began to force myself to get off the sidelines and get my life back. I told myself over and over that he is not worth giving up friends and activities. I was po-ed that my studies suffered because of him. If you let your studies slide, you are allowing him to affect your entire future. And he is definately not worth it.

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