would this be such a bad thing to do?
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would this be such a bad thing to do?
| Sat, 03-11-2006 - 6:23pm |
I've been friends with an ex for a while. I'm pretty sure he still has some feelings for me because he calls me a few times a week, but I've come to terms with the fact that if he really wanted me back he'd do something about it so I've moved on. anyway, he recently told me that one of his best friends keeps asking him to go out to bars with him because he wants to meet women, but my ex says that he's too focused on his work to date right now and doesn't want to meet people at bars really. anyway, i know this friend. we've met a few times and he's a really great, fun guy who i wouldn't mind dating myself. we have a lot in common and would make a good couple. i've had thoughts about telling my ex, the next time he brings up his friend, to give his friend my number if he wants to go out sometime. from what he said, his friends wants a serious relationship and to settle down with someone, which is what i want to do and the main reason my ex and i broke up was because he couldn't handle a real commitment now. do you think that's playing with fire too much? i know it can cause a little trouble, but this guy is terrific and i think we'd hit it off and it's so hard to find the right people to date. but my only link to him is my ex and there's no way to get around it. i can't just track this guy down myself. honestly, at this point, there's no reason my ex should find my idea offensive especially since he never mentions wanting to get back with me.

Personally, I wouldn't. How would you feel if the situation were reversed? Not the nicest thing to do I think...
Kerry
Sorry, playing with fire.
" Where there is a will, there is a way... "
My advice to you, is to by all means - LEAVE your ex out of this. It is sooo unneccesary to use your ex to facilitate your communications with this guy, you are interested in.
Be a " big girl " - and hook up with the "friend" on your own terms.
JMO,
Cherry.