Would you contact your ex

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anonymous user
Registered: 12-31-1969
Would you contact your ex
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Mon, 12-13-2004 - 5:57pm

I would really appreciate some advice from the Girls here.
Last year on a Guy's trip to Dublin I met a fantastic Girl, we swopped Numbers and were in contact most days and would meet up at least once a month for over a year, The relationship was the most intense I've ever known, I've never loved anyone so much and have never been loved so much! We both knew we were soulmate's. The big Problem being I was in a loveless marriage that I couldn't bring Myself to end.

After a year My Girlfriend understandbly gave Me an ultimatum to leave My wife or to end our fantastic relationship, I took the cowards way out and said I couldn't end My marriage. We still kept in contact, she would text or email most days saying that Her world had collapsed and that she was lost without Me, I was too and pined so much for Her.

One morning she rang to say she had actually Met someone else, I was devastated but thought it was probably for the best, but within Days she was texting saying that it was Me she really wanted and that He was nothing like Me, after 6 weeks I realised I couldn't be without Her after she rang in tears begging Me to leave My wife, that weekend I did. I rang My Girlfriend after the weekend but was horrified when she said she was going to give it a go with her new guy! I tried desperately through the summer to win her back but to no avail, in the end she told Me she didn't want anymore contact with Me so I respected Her wishes.

After 8 weeks of no contact I started getting the odd text asking if I was ok, then recently one that said she was thinking of Me and that she loved Me and knows we are still soulmates, only last week she sent a text to say that on that day last year we were in London together! I love Her so much and want to get back with Her, My question is, would you contact your ex if you were trying to move on with someone new especially as she know's how I feel about her? Is she being friendly or testing the water to see If I still feel the same about Her??? I would really appreciate your advice.

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Mon, 12-13-2004 - 10:09pm
Hello jas, welcome to the board!

 
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-10-2004
Mon, 12-13-2004 - 11:00pm
Obviously she is testing the waters!!! What you need to do is let her know how you feel once and for all- honesty never hurt- really. Women love that- they want to feel wanted- let her know- throw out that line and see if she bites- if she doesn't well- you tried right- and as much as it may hurt- or hopefully doesn't- you got your answer!!!
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anonymous user
Tue, 12-14-2004 - 11:45am
I agree with both posts.
Is she still testing the waters or being friendly? Yes. She's being friendly and still testing the waters to see how you feel and if there might be a chance to see you again.
I think if you're both available, you should go for it, providing the feelings are still there.
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Registered: 12-14-2004
Tue, 12-14-2004 - 11:56am
don't think she's just being friendly. be careful because she might be stringing you along. like if there's something going wrong with her current bf, then she'd text you just to make sure she's keeping you interested in case things don't work out with the current guy. you need to find out what she really wants from you. it seems abit fishy that you're single and now she is with someone else.
I agree with the other posts that you need to be honest, tell her you are now available and how much you love her and want her back. if you two are truly soulmates then there's no question that you two will be together. good luck and good on you for finally leaving your loveless marriage. DB