would you rather...

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would you rather...
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Mon, 01-30-2006 - 8:56pm
....be with a guy who is exciting, well-traveled, extremely intelligent, successful but is definitely a little bit of a player and has cheated on previous girlfriends and does not have the body you'd want him to have OR a guy who you know will NEVER cheat on you, who has a body to die for and is "safe", but is not as intelligent and is quite boring? Just curious about your opinions...thanks!
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Mon, 01-30-2006 - 9:47pm
I would definitely go with the "safer" guy, especially if we both are attracted to each other. That attraction is important to me. I wouldn't want to keep worrying and be insecure with the guy who is a bit of a player. I am pretty sensitive to that kind of stuff, and so wouldn't be able to remain contented with such a person, however intelligent and exciting he is.
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Registered: 11-24-2004
Tue, 01-31-2006 - 1:19am
I'd have to go with bachelor #2. I want a guy who cares about me and will treat me well. When a guy is a player, you are always second best. I want a guy who will put me in first place.

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Tue, 01-31-2006 - 6:25am
Well, the second one obviously cares since he wouldn't cheat, but he has a hard time showing it; he has a hard time expressing it in words or in actions, but you KNOW he is a very very honest and loyal person...how would that change the situation?
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Registered: 08-26-2003
Tue, 01-31-2006 - 8:21am
#2 would be for me. I am so over going after the 'players' - just doesn't make sense to do that anymore. Gee..... I wish I knew that when I was younger and thought that the nice guys were boring. Now, here I am searching for that nice guy!
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Registered: 04-14-2003
Tue, 01-31-2006 - 8:28am
Neither, I'd hold out for the right guy. There are more than two men on this planet.
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Tue, 01-31-2006 - 9:31am
I'm with you, chamey. I'd rather stay single than be with either a player or someone who's boring.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 01-31-2006 - 1:30pm

I agree with you and Chamey...neither!

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Tue, 01-31-2006 - 8:32pm
I'd pick the guy whose values, moral, wants, needs and goals in life were most in line with what I wanted for myself. He would be the one whose personality and other traits complemented mine the most. Neither guy #1, nor guy #2 would fit that criteria, so I'd wait till someone came along who did.