Wrong Man Again?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2004
Wrong Man Again?
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Mon, 11-12-2007 - 1:22pm

I have been dating this guy for a little over a year. He moved in with me right away, long story short.. we had an agreement that we would split the bills. Now, I pay the bills before the first of the month, and sometime around the middle of the month he gives me a check. He usually "lets" me pay for groceries. Lately, he has let his out of work 28 yr old son stay with us in MY small condo. I've had enough, but I wonder if I'm being selfish. He is 57 and I am 47. We both work...why are men so willing to let a woman take care of them? What should I do?


Here we go again!

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-1999
In reply to: mstiki
Mon, 11-12-2007 - 3:32pm

Ok if wanting respect and courtesy from others is selfish - then yes, I am selfish. What does selfish mean to you? You are confusing selfish - which for me is taking care of my 'self' -

Toni

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2007
In reply to: mstiki
Mon, 11-12-2007 - 6:13pm
If you feel as though you are being taken advantage of, then you need to speak up and remind this guy that he lives in YOUR condo and now the environment is cramped and unenjoyable.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-08-2006
In reply to: mstiki
Tue, 11-13-2007 - 7:58pm

Toni and Snafu gave you some great advice.