WTF????????

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Registered: 07-17-2004
WTF????????
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Wed, 08-25-2004 - 11:43pm


Women will give you they're number even though they have a bf. Dam sure you cant trust them. I was getting to know this chic at the gym and said to her "we should get together some time, you got a # i can reach you at"

She gave me her #. This was last week. I did'nt call her, since i see her at the gym. I asked her out in person tonite, and she says "i dunno, i dont think my bf would like that"

Women are so strange! WTF is up with that. Why give out your number if you have a bf????????

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Registered: 05-26-2004
In reply to: fabulouz
Thu, 08-26-2004 - 9:27am
Any sentence that you have that begins with the word "women":
Lilypie Baby Days

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: fabulouz
Thu, 08-26-2004 - 10:18am
Lots of people have a "use" for people other than "sexual type/romantic level activity and contact".

I give out my number plenty - to people who want athletic training, to people who want someone to talk to about their 12-step issues, to people who want to know who I use as a massage therapist for my sports training, to people who want to know about basketball where I work, to people who say they're thinking about sending their kids to the university in my town.....there's plenty of reasons to give out my number.

You're just assuming "any woman giving out her number wants a date"....and what is evident is that when you approached her in that regard - she upfront said "no, I don't think my boyfriend wuld like it."

AKA - I gave you my number because I found you interesting or because I thought we shared a common interest (the gym and working out) NOT because I found you attractive and wanted a date.

Erin

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Registered: 06-15-2004
In reply to: fabulouz
Thu, 08-26-2004 - 10:55am
I totally agree with Erin.....I have lots of male friends that are just that...FRIENDS!!! I do have a BF, but he trusts me and we hang out with other ppl all the time, so me giving my phone nbr out to a male is really no big deal...

Whether this girl chose to tell you when you asked for her nbr or tell you after the fact of giving you her nbr, she still told you...so I give her kuddo's for being honest...YOU assumed that she didn't have a BF, that was your mistake..never ever ever assume anything in the dating world....

In the future when you ask for a nbr, find out first if they have a BF, or FWB....that will save you alot of "piss on women" time....

~bella

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Registered: 01-21-2004
In reply to: fabulouz
Thu, 08-26-2004 - 11:34am
She shouldn't have given out her phone number in the first place. She should have said "sorry, I have a boyfriend" right from the beginning.
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Registered: 08-26-2004
In reply to: fabulouz
Thu, 08-26-2004 - 1:31pm
whoa... thats harsh.... maybe she was just so caught up with you she went into her own little world with you and forgot she had a bf. or she was only doing it to get back at whoever her bf is. whoever she is i definatly dont think shes worth it. if you like her what if you were her bf and she was handing her number out...........
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Registered: 08-25-2004
In reply to: fabulouz
Thu, 08-26-2004 - 2:12pm
I think this really depends on the person. I have as many guy friends as I do women. I dont get the impression always that someone who wants my number is vying for my bf's position. Some women I know for whatever reason do not have many male friendships outside of their romantic relationship - they have friendships mainly with other women. I think this might fuel their suspicions that a guy is only asking for their number with one thing in mind. Having said that you have to add women's intuition to this. Most women I know are totally aware of when there is a vibe of romantic interest coming at them from a guy. It is almost like there is a compliment hanging in the air. We also can feel when things are totally platonic. I have been asked for my number where it seemed clear the guy was looking at me in a way where he was kind of anticipating something romantic and in those scenarios, I smile politely and tell him if he is looking for a new friend he can have my number but I have a boyfriend.

If you were sending out totally clear vibes and flirting with her and she gave you her phone number without stating her status, I agree you might have dodged a bullet.