You know when you are in Love when...?

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Registered: 03-24-2005
You know when you are in Love when...?
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Tue, 06-26-2007 - 2:49pm

What happens when you feel you r in love? my heart is really beating hard- so hard when I think of him that I cannot sleep.
Sleep just flew away from my eyes. Yet, I wake up with all energy the next day with the little sleep I had.

Can someone quickly teach me how to flirt for I have been talking with a man who also is equally expressing his interest and is flirting with me (very decently) even though he is getting married next month. We both know he is getting married. he knows I know. we spoke abt it and cleared the air. He and I both have very deep conversations and appreciate similar things in life. I have been talking with him just for past few days. His words are charming and he is a very nice person. He also told me he is in transition phase of his life, he is afraid to get married, and that I should have met him six months back or six months after! He sees me and talks to me as though he likes me. He also told me I am very sweet person by nature. We talk abt anything and everything..I also told him there is no obligation to talk to me (since it was me who started chatting with him online when I did not know he was gettting married at that time!) But he said he was very curious to know abt me and talk to me, I am very different girl. He tells me he is liking to spend time with me every day when we go out for walk. he had even himself volunteered to come meet me in the weekend evening making up a reason that his life is very monotonous and that he wants to talk to different people and learn more abt them. He had come home and had asked me if we can have dinner together. he offered to cook. I was so surprized! But what I want to say here is he is being himself with me..no motives like sex r anything so far. Remember we both were alone in my place for about 5 hours. We went to Shrek the third and then came home, had dinner and spoke till 12:30 in the night.

Anyways, I think he is a good man but I donno whether I should be talking to him? He is leaving next week to get married. So he has asked me we could spend this weekend together (one day) with him if I wish to. Again, we have discussed very openly that he has NOT shown any vibes or that he is having fun with me in a way a man always sees a woman.

So girls tell me how I should make my one day of my life the best day? I know he likes me and I do like him. I think this is the first time LOVE for me. I cannot believe this! I can keep listening to him 24/7 when he talks. I want to express my love to him. Can I do that? If I dont, I will loose my life time oppty I feel. I dont mind if I am making a fool of myself. I dont care if he laughs inside or after going home when I tell him I am in love with him. At least I would have splurted it out before he gets married, right? I have tried to make him talk abt his to-be wife. But he says he does not want to. Guide me!

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 4:18pm

What you are experiencing is infatuation, not love.


Hon, if he really wanted to be with you as opposed to his wife to be, he would have called off his wedding.

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Registered: 10-14-1999
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 5:01pm

this is not love - its lust. You think this would be the best dy of your life - it will be one of the biggest letdowns of your life - if you have sex with this guy - and that's all it will be for him - you likely will catch feelings and then expect to continue the relationship - with a married man. There is nothing good in this for you.

If you are looking for real love - keep looking - this guy promises heartache.

Toni

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 5:32pm
The excitement of an extramarital affair can add to the infatuation-like feelings that you are experiencing. I dont know why you are so excited because the time he will be able to spend with you will be much less than if you were dating someone who was single. You'll spend holidays and important events alone because he wont be able to break away from the wife. Sorry to be a buzz kill but I don't see what is so great about this guy or this relationship.