young boy woundering "love or lust"

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Registered: 03-06-2004
young boy woundering "love or lust"
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Sat, 03-06-2004 - 4:24pm
Hello my name is David Noser, i am a 15 year old boy and i have no sexual experiance what-so-ever, but i have had a puppy love for over 6 years now, and i am geting rather fustrated over this girl at school. she is in the same grade as me and the same age. and she is a smart, pretty, curved young woman, i may be young but i am rather mature for my age and i am a very bright young man. my body is starting to look like a mans body and i know i am young and when the people that are on the internet read this they think i am way too young to be doing anything sexualy. but i have a real problem, the girl at school is one i am quite taken after, i sit beside her in school and we talk often and at the begining of this school year i made it my goal to let her know about my feelings but it hasnt pulled through yet. she is a good nice girl and makes good grades and is really smart and she may be what you call out of my league but i hope that if any thing ever does happen that she would be happy first and my lust would always come second... i do not want this to turn out like most of the stories in this area but i just want her to be happy first and foremost and if i can relay my feelings towards her and for her to at least adknowalage them. from what i can tell she has never done anything sexualy eather but a boy the other day was flerting with her and pulling her bra strap to put pressure on her brests, and he was tickling her and stroaking her private areas and inner thighs. to my shock she seemed to enjoy the attention but it was a case that she liked what was going on even though she didnt think it was right. i am far to shy to just do this at the drop of a hat but if she was my girl friend i would do any type of touching or lack of because she didnt feel comfterable doing that with me. all i want is her to be happy if it is not with me then so be it. all this would be so much easier if i had a spine...but i dont. rembember send me messages to help me get my cofidence up to ask her, or any advice possable, i dont care if it is good advice i just need something real quick to help me establish an answer to this dellima. my email is nanbr@shentel.net.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 03-07-2004 - 2:01pm
At your age, it is only natural to find a girl attractive.

Right now, you are not fully matured to manage a relationship which involves sexual encounters. If you want to ask her to go to a movie or ballgame or wherever young people go, do so.

When you grow older, in your twenties, your taste in women might change. You will not be the same guy you are now. As we experience things, we change.

So be carefree, for we grow up much too fast.

When a teenager in my day wanted to do all the adult things, marry, have babies, smoke, etc., they called that, 'fast living', which was looked down on.

So listen to the wise people of the world, and just have good clean fun.