Younger man, is he playing games

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Registered: 04-20-2004
Younger man, is he playing games
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Tue, 04-20-2004 - 1:40pm
I am a 29 year old single mother of two. I recently met a guy whom is 24. I met him in the most awkward place, driving on the street. He asked for my number and called me that same night. Actually, he came over to my house and we had sex. I did not hear from him for about a month and a half. I ended up calling him. Since then, we have been talking on the phone and trying to get to know each other. He keeps telling me that he does not want to be in a committed relationship. I really doubt that he has a girlfriend at this time. We try to make plans to see each other but they always fail. I find myself liking him more and more as days go by. I guess my questions is should I wait around or move on?

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Registered: 01-10-2004
Fri, 05-21-2004 - 7:44pm
hi sandra,

sorry i have been very busy at work.

well your kids are kid of young for him . he must be nervous. but the rest of your reply was just great.

you have a very good head on your shoulders. you know whats life is about now just go out there and take no prisioners.. your very level headed and confidant.

THE main thing is he just doesnt realize what he lost. you will find the right person for you and you sound great. anyone would be lucky to have you.

best of luck keep in touch.
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Registered: 01-21-2004
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 2:34pm
Do you often invite stray men over to your home when your children are there? This is not only inappropriate, but dangerous. I'm not saying you shouldn't date at all, but you should get to know a man slowly before bringing him into your home. Also, it does sound like you are chasing after him, and he likely perceives you as being desperate at this point. He already told you he is not interested in a relationship, so why are you still trying to pursue him?
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Registered: 04-17-2004
Tue, 06-29-2004 - 9:10pm
Move on, and please... take better care of your body.
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Registered: 06-13-2004
Sat, 07-03-2004 - 11:35am
WARNING:: sex within 1st day of meeting--what are you thinking?? That's just plain CRAZY this day and age with all the STD's, hepatitis, etc. out there. You need to be much more careful or you will end up regretting one of these "flings". Trust me, I see people come in and we have to operate on their genitilial warts, etc...and it is DISGUSTING!! Not to mention HIV, etc. Takes ONE time, please be more respectful of your body and health. This situation is exactly as it started, sex. That's it. He is a "kid" (sorry guys) most guys that age do not want ANY responsibility of raising kids. And most will run away as fast as they can from raising someone else's kids. Just end it. It's probably not going anywhere.
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Registered: 05-05-2003
Tue, 07-06-2004 - 7:46pm
Is he playing games? No. He has told you straight out he doesn't want a relationship. In this post you say you find yourself liking him more and more. That is because we like those things we cannot have. I agree with the poster who said he got what he wanted. It's time to move on. Don't answer this guys calls anymore, all he is going to want from you is what he got the first night. This is not a relationship potential.

You need to find a great man who will want to start out getting to know you and have a relationship. You need to step back and respect yourself. While I know it's exciting to have the attention of a man, sex does not equal love. Any man worth anything will respect you enough to wait before going to bed.

You also need to look at the signals you are sending out. If all you are portraying to a guy you talk to is a flirty, easy lay- then you will be treated as such. You are 29 and responsible for two children, you need to be the example you want to set for them.

Look for someone your age or older who is looking for a relationship, not a sex buddy.

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