younger men

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Registered: 11-15-2005
younger men
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Wed, 11-16-2005 - 9:14am
I really need some opinions on this. Do you think anything can come out of a relationship with someone who is 18 years younger than me. He's 25 and I'm 43. I didn't seem to get any responses on my other one so I'm trying again. He's not a jerk, kinda shy and I know he likes me. We do things together. I've asked him a few times about what he sees in me and the one thing that he always says in that I can hold a conversation. I get that and I don't get that. He says the age difference doesn't bother him and that he only wants to date me and we've been dating for just a little over a month now. I'm an attractive, do not look or act my age hip 43 year old woman. He's pretty mature for his age, he was a farm boy growing up with 9 kids in the family so I think that's what makes him different from other guys his age. And he's also very good looking. So if anyone has anything to say please give me your opinion on this. Thank you.
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Registered: 09-01-2005
In reply to: slf1980_1962
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 9:24am
As with any relationship, if you're both honest about who you are and what you want out of the relationship then do whatever you'd like. If your goals and intentions are similar and no one has alterior motives then there's nothing that says you can't date someone significantly younger or older than yourself.
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Registered: 04-14-2003
In reply to: slf1980_1962
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 10:46am
Some people get along. If you are both on the same page I wouldn't worry about it. He likes you, you like him and that is all that matters.
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Registered: 02-04-2005
In reply to: slf1980_1962
Tue, 11-22-2005 - 4:26pm
I think that I can help give you advise on this situation. I am 43 and my BF is 25 it is strange we have the same age differences. We have been together going on 7 years in March 2006. We have had a very good relationship. You just need to make sure you both have the same goals in life. When we first got together I told him no kids and he said he was fine with that. Well over the years he has changed his mind and has broke up with me because of it. He ends up back everytime he leaves me and currently we are working on things and I have agreed to try to have a child. I just didnt feel he was ready before but do feel he is now. I wish you the best.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
In reply to: slf1980_1962
Sat, 11-26-2005 - 10:41pm

It's quite a gap, true, but ulitimately

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Registered: 11-15-2005
In reply to: slf1980_1962
Mon, 11-28-2005 - 12:51pm
Hey thanks for the letter. It doesn't make me feel like I'm the only one doing this. We share alot of the same interests. I think that I think more like a 25 year old than I do my own age. We seem to mesh real good together. I asked him to if he wanted kids because he would not be getting and from me and he said he doesn't want any. He comes from a family of 9 and has tons of nieces and nephews. I think that might be enough for him. My one concern right now is that he his kind of shy and doesn't express his feeling towards me. It's like I have to pry it out of him. I don't know if it's just him being his age or mabye he really doesn't like me enough to ask me things about me and him or the way he feels. He's so sweet and treats me so nice that sometimes I just don't know what to think. And I don't want to talk to him about that all the time. He says if he didn't like me that he would not be with me. It will only be 2 months here next week and I haven't met any of his family which I think is alright, he hasn't met any of mine. But he doesn't ask either. I guess i should just take it real slow and see where it goes. Ya think??