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young,naive,confused
| Thu, 11-23-2006 - 9:26pm |
Hi. This is my first time on a message board, but I need some advice. I am now 21 years old and I have been in a relationship for three years. It is my first relationship with a guy ever. At the beginning, our relationship and sex life was incredible! I thought that I would never be unhappy with this guy. However, over the past five months or so, there has been very little romance on his part and he seems less interested in sex, despite my attempts to spice things up. He is my best friend and I love him with all my heart. But, this lack of sex and romance is making me lust after other men. I would never cheat, but I find myself wanting to flirt with other guys and I crave attention from other guys. I feel incredibly guilty and awful just thinking about it, but I don't know what to tell my boyfriend. Since this is my first relationship, I was just wondering if this is normal to lust after other men. Somebody please offer me some advice!

I think it is in our human nature to lust after another human being whether its physical, mental or emotional. The sad part about it is that if you want to stay best of friends w/ your guy you have to control yourself. Nowadays it is really hard to find a good guy to hang out w/ and actually have fun w/ him.
You can enjoy sex by yourself when he is not around and when you did not get the satisfaction you have wanted. You can buy some toys, watch some porn, whatever pleases your curiosity. If you act on your lust for other men the consequences are far much greater like your guilt, pregnancy, sexual disease, stalkers, that guy trying to get some more than sex, getting caught and there are so much more to name. I've had my bad share.
And then you're still very young so most women my age would say enjoy and have fun. But remember you said that this guy is your best friend. Would you give up a good friendship over a one night stand that may turn into a disaster?