Your opinion please

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-09-2005
Your opinion please
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Mon, 11-28-2005 - 1:27pm

This isn't a dating question, but I like the advice given here. Hopefully someone can respond.

Okay, say you have a friend that you haven't seen in a while and when you talk you tell them your life has changed for the bad because you recently found out an immediate family member has been diagnoised with serious illness, if you were this friend and you happen to see them again wouldn't you ask how they are doing or acknowledge what you told them?

I bascially opened up about my life and yet the next time I see them its like I told them nothing. They even ignored me, its not like I cried uncontrollably when I told them or even cried for that matter. I've managed somehow under the circumstances to stay strong. I was very calm just upset when telling them the lastest since I haven't talked to them for a while. Am I being unreasonable here or I'm being too sensitive?. I'm not about to tell them anything, I'm letting it go, but please anyone tell me if I'm being unreasonable. Thank you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-14-2003
Mon, 11-28-2005 - 1:50pm
Maybe they are uncomfortable talking about a potentially sensitive subject. Maybe since you haven't mentioned it again they think you are no longer concerned about the problem. They also might have been uncomfortable talking about a sick person, some people just don't like discussing illnesses.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-09-2005
Mon, 11-28-2005 - 2:08pm
I could understand that, but a simple "how are u?", would have been nice I think. I mean they didn't even talk to me, that is my problem. I have been on the opposite end and always ask the person how they are. If they want to talk about it they do, I don't ask them, if I don't want to talk about it, you just change the subject, simple as that.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-14-2003
Mon, 11-28-2005 - 3:03pm
You can't control other people's actions. It really isn't worth thinking about, everyone has their own style.