your ways of getting over x bf?
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your ways of getting over x bf?
| Wed, 05-26-2004 - 11:55pm |
is it harder for women to get over a man, after she's been dumped? Why do you hang around the same vicinity? How will you get over the man, if you continue to see him (not work related)When you decide to move on, why not cut off all contact? (phone,pager,email,visual etc...) Isnt that the way its suppose to work?How can u move on, if you visually continue to see the x? Are you hoping to get back with the x? Why do you keep material things? They just bring up memories of the x?
You women are weird creatures lol

I read your other post, so I think you're just trying to understand why your ex is around more than you want her to be. If she has the same gym membership you do, there's not much to be done about that besides changing the time you go to the gym if you don't want to see her, b/c obviously she knows when you're going to be there. As for why contact sometimes continues(phone calls, emails, etc) sometimes it just takes time to realize something is over. Ever smoked or had a friend that smoked, and tried to quit? You don't want to spend the money, it stinks, and it drives you crazy when don't have it. Some could say love and getting out of love is similiar. You don't want to love that person anymore, love stinks when you don't have it anymore, and often drives you crazy. So you keep reaching for that pack of cigs(or that phone, or those pictures of you two on vacation or whatever else) and you debate on whether it is worth it to light up.
As with failed love, it's usually not worth it. Read some of the posts on Breaking Up is Hard to Do board. We try to move on, but everyone gets stuck in the past sometime in their life...love makes it hard to let go. It's something we're used to. Now in your situation, you caught her cheating. Fine, you say forget this, I'm outta here. She obviously hasn't let herself get caught in the idea that you aren't gonna come back...she didn't end it, you did. For some, that's a big deal. Was there any discussion beyond "You cheating b***h, pack your stuff!" (not that that's the one you had! lol) Sometimes, even if it's our fault, we need to hash it all out for complete closure.
Also, has she ever heard you tell her she's the one...or something similiar to make her think you can't move on without her? It could just be a giant dose of EGO standing in her way. Ever seen that movie 40 days and 40 nights? A girl in there is just fine without her ex until she figures out she isn't wanted by him anymore..that drives her crazy.
Anyway, just one person's opinion; don't even know if any solution was presented here.
sounds like she has a motive? I did reassure her a few times when we were together, that she's the only one for me etc......
Tgowens was right about that...if you think about it, you do say hello or something to strangers everyday..with no thought of their personalities or problems or respect. It does show that you've moved on. But like I said, it sounds like you haven't fully yet. You could just ask her why she's hanging out at your gym at the time she knows you're going to be there and see what she says. That way you'd know from her mouth and not have to wonder. You can't change your workout time by even a half hour? You must have some schedule to keep.
good luck
Don't have anything else to say on this.