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| Tue, 06-13-2006 - 10:51pm |
My sister, who owns a salon, tried to set me up with one of her clients. I trust her completely so I allowed her to give this guy my e-mail. We agreed to meet for a very casual quick bite to eat after work. Last minute, he calls me up and says that he stopped at a car show on the way home, and would I come and meet him there. I roll pretty easy, and it sounded like a good time, so I met him there.
Right off the bat, there was no mutual attraction, but he seemed nice enough and conversation flowed easily. He asked if I wanted to get something to eat. There was a snack stand (burgers, hot dogs, pretzels, etc.). We go up together and he buys his food and moves along to the condiments. He didn't even offer to pay for me. I ended up buying my own pretzel. I found that to be extremely rude, since he asked me to meet him, and also suggested the venue. In my mind, the date was really over, but I stayed out of politeness.
I have been on my share of dates, and regardless of how casual, or whether or not there was an attraction, the gentlemen have always at least offered to pay. I guess the point is moot, because I will never see this guy again, but am I wrong to think that this guy was a complete tool for not offering to pay for my pretzel?

I agreed with everything LightBright said, until her last sentence. This does sound like a man who does things as they suit HIM. To change your arrangements and nonchalantly stop at a car show on the way to pick you up(???) I'd say he wasn't all that concerned about the impression he would make on you, even before meeting you.
However, you were game to meet him at the car show... which is great, if going there was REALLY okay with you. If it wasn't okay, I would have told him "no thanks"....that I didn't care for the change in arrangements and maybe we'll have an opportunity to meet again sometime. End of story.
But in terms of the pretzel, I think he probably figured out from the first few moments of your conversation (just like you did) that this meeting wasn't going to lead any place. Given the lack of a "love connection" he didn't feel compelled to treat you to anything... not even a pretzel.
Or maybe he was reacting to YOUR negative vibe. In other words: "This girl obviously is turned off and won't be giving me the time of day after today, so why should I behave like I'm really on a date with her?" Now, I have known men who were more chilvalrous on a BAD blind date than this guy was. But that doesn't necessarily mean he's a bad guy. His behavior might be perfectly acceptable to other women... which is why I don't agree that he's doomed to end up alone.
It's all in the luck of the draw. You just found a kind of man that YOU don't want.
Better luck on your next dating adventure...