28 and never "dated"

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Registered: 02-16-2011
28 and never "dated"
Wed, 02-16-2011 - 3:45pm

I'm 28 and I have never "dated." I've went on dates but they have either fizzled out or have quickly become serious long term relationships. So when I met a new guy and hooked up the same night I assumed it was just a night of fun. But he got all serious and told me he wanted to date me. His job keeps him out of town for months at a time and told me that he wanted me to be his last call and spend his free time with me. That was Saturday night. I only heard from him once after I texted him to have a good day.

Am I just being impatient and this is how dating is? Or was I played? I am usually a pretty good judge of character and thought this guy was a real genuine guy so I want to give him the benefit of the doubt.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 02-16-2011 - 7:26pm

To me "dating" is a process of spending time w/ someone so you are getting to know each other to see if you want a more serious relationship--or if both people want to be "casual dating" they could continue going on dates w/ no future plans except to continue to enjoy each other's company.

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Thu, 02-17-2011 - 10:51am

If you thought he was being genuine then maybe he


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Registered: 06-07-2004
Fri, 02-18-2011 - 11:42am

I don't know why he thought he could date you when his job keeps him out of town for months at a time. If a guy really wants to be with you, he will let you know. So far he is not letting you know. His almost complete lack of communication means he really is not interested in you other than maybe a booty call when he is back in town again. Maybe he meant what he said in terms of basically hanging out when hes in town, hooking up, and then he is gone again. In any case its obvious he does not want to pursue a relationship with you and being his hookup now and then is not what I call dating.