advice or criticism?

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Registered: 08-09-2010
advice or criticism?
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Sun, 09-15-2013 - 8:51am

this thought just came to my mind - the replies that people post here can be misconstrued as either advice or criticism, anyhoo, this funny quote came to my mind:

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Registered: 04-13-2007
Sun, 09-15-2013 - 1:40pm

Funny quote... i like it. It is true that a good portion of the replies posted are borderline. I think because a lot of the situations posted also seem clear cut that some people forget themselves and post replies that pretty just say "duh!". but some of us forget that what may seem clear cut in someoneelse's dilemma, would be a great cloudy pile of emotions for the person living. Plus often many of us post having a good idea of what the right answer is, but for whatever reason, we cannot take the neccessary steps to do what needs to be done, so we seek the input of hopefully like minded peers, hoping either to get the encouragement to do the right thing, or a good enough excuse to do what we know is not the smart thing...

So I always think its best to be honest, clear but supportive of each other on these kinds of forums. Only if u really know a person does the tough love thing work.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Thu, 09-19-2013 - 8:42am

Silly quote.  Does it mean that I have to smoke meth and ruin my life before telling someone that it is not a good idea to do drugs?

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Registered: 08-09-2010
Sat, 09-21-2013 - 6:15pm

re:   but some of us forget that what may seem clear cut in someoneelse's dilemma, would be a great cloudy pile of emotions for the person living.

good point and reminds me of this quote (I am full of them but will stop as I assume I am getting annoying, but I promise this is a good one!!!!!)

our vision becomes clear when it's blurred by tears

no need to pine over a guy who only makes you cry and cry and cry (this is my quote LOL)

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Registered: 08-09-2010
Sat, 09-21-2013 - 6:17pm

Dear Demontespan,

Lighten up!!!!  I suggest you **not** be so serious all the time Smile

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Sun, 09-22-2013 - 11:23am

By that you mean I should be less "serious" and be stupid and idiotic like you know who?

Thank you for your "suggestion" that I never asked for.  Why don't you worry about yourself instead of others?  I am not the one who came here looking for dating advice.  I am happy and doing quite well with my life.

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Registered: 08-09-2010
Sun, 09-22-2013 - 3:14pm

i was trying to be nice.  Instead of demanding you do something, I thought if I suggested you do something, it would appear nicer.  Ok, I see what is going on here.  Because you know I made the other post about the green card cat-loving guy, you perceive me to be a certain type of person.  So when I talk about other topics of conversation, you automatically transfer your pereception of me and don't see me in another light - gotcha.  Ok, have a nice day.