am I asking for too much?

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Registered: 12-26-2004
am I asking for too much?
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Mon, 11-04-2013 - 10:48pm

I was emailing off of the dating website with this guy for a few days until he suggested we text.  He was actually on his way back from the mountains and his friend was driving, so we texted awhile.  He was saying all these nice compliments and siad he wanted to see more pics, and one pic was so kissable.  We are both Italian so he was explaining how his mom taught him how to make the family recipe sauce. It seems like he was interested in me. He asked if I have any siblings and other things that led me to believe he was interested.....  then I asked for pics of him, blah blah blah -

he said good night, sweet dreams....  than nothing at all today - not even a quick hello text from his lunch break (we both have 9-5 office jobs) - NOTHING... then I saw him online all night - REALLY?  Was hoping for a quick hello text asking too much?  Or does he believe in the "whoever texted last, has to wait until the other person texts back" - because when he said good night I did not reply back - but if he really liked me he would've said hello on his lunch break!!!  or even now, i'ts almost 11 pm UGH!!!  

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Tue, 11-05-2013 - 9:11am

I'm not a big fan of texting anyway, especially if you haven't met. I say correspond through the site and meet as soon as possible, or decide not to. I think some men find texting and emailing to be entertaining, and many have no intention of meeting. It's likely he is also passing the time with other women this way (sorry). 

I might ignore his next next, or at least, wait a day to reply. 

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Tue, 11-05-2013 - 9:11am

I'm not a big fan of texting anyway, especially if you haven't met. I say correspond through the site and meet as soon as possible, or decide not to. I think some men find texting and emailing to be entertaining, and many have no intention of meeting. It's likely he is also passing the time with other women this way (sorry). 

I might ignore his next next, or at least, wait a day to reply. 

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 11-05-2013 - 12:18pm

So why don't you just text him?  It seems as though if you had a long conversation it wouldn't be out of the ordinary for you to text him first to say hi.  I definitely agree with Floridagirl about meeting sooner rather than later.  If I was still doing OLD I would also be keeping my options open until I actually met someone & we were dating, so I don't see anything wrong w/ him being on the site since you haven't met.

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Registered: 12-26-2004
Tue, 11-05-2013 - 8:39pm

true, thanks.

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Registered: 12-26-2004
Wed, 11-06-2013 - 8:59pm

There is a big silohette where his photo used to be. He closed his account and still not call or text.  I thought for once that I'd do things differently and let the guy make the effort (not just this guy).  Maybe I am being supertitious but it did not work out with any of the guys who I sort of chased and never gave them a chance to let me know they were interested.  So now I have done my share of effort here.  No more.  I am doing things differently.

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Registered: 12-03-2006
Wed, 11-27-2013 - 9:19pm

I don't think you're asking too much. How long have you been texting? Is he back in town yet? If a guy is serious about finding a relationship he should be quick to meet. If he can't meet yet, then he would want frequent phone conversation to learn about the other person. It's hard to have conversation by texting.

I don't understand the people go for superficial texting indefinately. They are so pathetic that they subsist on multiple texting partners?  That kind of "relationship" is not for me.