any ideas on what he means by this?
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| Tue, 11-25-2008 - 3:02pm |
So...a little background...
He's 45, divorced, father of one (not living with him) and familiar with the dating scene.
Me - 49, divorced, mother of one (living with me - and friends with his child), new to the dating scene.
We met over a school activity our kids were a part of and hit it off. We're still fairly new into our friendship, however he is attending my company Christmas party with me next week - as friends.
A few weeks ago he did let me know that we "can't" date - because he doesn't date parents of his daughters school friends. (did i say that right?) He tends to have a lot of rules that make sense with dating - no one too far away, no one from church, work, school, etc. I don't have rules like this. My son (our kids are 14/15 and in high school) thinks that he and I should date. I would like to date him. I'm okay with the distance, (currently we're about 35 miles apart) and it doesn't bother me that our kids go to school together.
Okay...so here's what I need help with. He emailed me today to wish me a happy Thanksgiving...and was joking around about a vehicle to take to my party on the 6th. I responded that his "tricked out" F150 stretch limo sounded great. (he was joking)
Here are our replies verbatim:
(Him)
Well, the stretch-F150-limo has a flat and a dead battery. But I can have Billy Bob hose down the 1980 Winnebago. You won't mind the cammo paint job, will you? She smokes a little when you take off, but just PURRS at 50 going down the highway.
Ever had sex in the back of an RV parked at a company party?
(Me)
With or without getting a run in my nylons?
(Him)
If you still have nylons on, you're not doin' it right....
I'm thinking the ONLY use I would have for nylons is tying the wrists to the headbo.... oops!
Never mind....
(Me)
oh...but you are and you can do it right...with or without the nylons on, I never said where the nylons were!...and that wrist thing, headboards,...
yeah
okay...gotta breathe again so I can work!
(end of emails)
So...does he mean anything in any of this? Of course I want him to...but I need to be realistic in all of this. I guess I'm really wondering if I have a chance with this guy breaking his "rules" and consider me as something more than a friend.
Thanks...for the help and male clarification!

I think setting rules for ones self in dating is ok, but geesh where does he expect to meet women?
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This is kinda weird to me. If you are supposedly only friends, then I would be kind of offended about starting the comment about having sex at the party and wouldn't have pursued that line of dialog at all. Back between divorces, I met this guy who I obviously liked more than he liked me. I thought we were hitting it off well. He said something about only wanting to be friends and since I was hoping he'd change his mind, I said that was ok. So we continued to go out a couple of times, he still paid and he would kiss me at the end of the night. So it seemed to me like nothing was different. It was kind of confusing to me about what he wanted. But then he stopped calling.
The thing is that I think that guys are pretty literal about what they want, but women tend not to believe them. So when he says that he doesn't want to date his kid's friends' moms, he probably means that (at least for now) and from your point of view, I would act like he is serious when he says it. So act like he's your friend, don't have sex and don't even talk about it. Then if he is truly interested in something more, he will let you know.
Hi Terrir,
I am not an expert in relationships or man.
But it sounds to me like he has some strange reason not to date.
From my read on this,
Thank you so much for your response.