Anybody can give two cents for this?

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Anybody can give two cents for this?
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Mon, 10-26-2009 - 3:28am

Dear All,

This guy has been the source of my curiosity, disappointment and enjoyment for the past 2 mths since I knew him. If you have read my past posts before, you would remember that he pulled last minute invitations to me, which I didn't mind at first and refused to in the end. So about a month ago, he disappeared when he didn't call me back after his overseas holiday. I didn't do anything about it and tried to forget him.

Three days ago, he sent me a chain message and I started our conversation by commenting on it. He asked me what I'm doing after work and I told him that I had plan to go to a place nearby his office building and apartment with some friends. He suggested that I should come earlier and met him first while waiting for the dinner time to come. He left his work earlier to meet me. I enjoyed our talks together before a girl friend of mine joined us at the table.

When it's time for me to have dinner with the rest of my friends, he went to fix his glasses and bought some dvds. He would joined me and my friends later for drinks later on. So he did joined me later on and brought some dvds for me too.

Other information is that he wanted me to know about his properties around the area, not in an arrogant way but definitely trying to impress me. My gal friend thinks that he knows how to treat a girl and definitely has some interests on me. But, she said she can't be sure if he wants to take it to the next level until his next move.

He blackberry messaged me that night that lasted until the next day. It wasn't anything much that we talked about, but he replied almost immediately and I thought it was a good sign. So at the end of our conversation, he asked me what am I going to do that Saturday night and I said probably just going to watch some dvds at home since I didn't feel like joining the rest of my friends for a movie. He said it seemed like what he would do too that night. I told him that if he has some better plan to do, just let me know. But, he didn't get back at me.

There I let him has the ball on his court! When we met, I also made it clear to him that I'm open for his invitations. I don't think I should contact him if he wouldn't contact me. He's just so mysterious.. I don't even know how old is him since our conversations never touched that base. I don't know anything about his past relationships or if he's thinking of marriage anytime soon (he's some yrs above me. I'm guessing around 5 yrs). All other guys that I see would ask me these kind of questions, but he didn't..

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 10-26-2009 - 10:19am
It does seem kind of weird that he would ask you what you were doing on Sat, you basically said you had no plans & were free, then he doesn't follow up? I mean, why was he asking you then? Yes, I wouldn't contact him--he seems kind of unreliable.
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Registered: 03-09-2008
Mon, 10-26-2009 - 8:54pm

This guy disappears on

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Tue, 10-27-2009 - 12:19am

Hmm when you guys summarize his behavior to me, it becomes as clear as it's supposed to be that he's not worth any of my thoughts.. I have let my emotions to cloud everything else (though my instinct still gives me a warning abt him).

I will forget about him and if he contacts me in the future, he has to do much better than a chain message or a simple chit chat. But, I wouldn't care so much about him either :)

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Registered: 04-12-2004
Tue, 10-27-2009 - 1:32pm

From your post, this is not a guy you walk away from, this is a guy you RUN away from.

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Registered: 06-01-2009
Tue, 10-27-2009 - 8:41pm
I second all the advice you got. It's right on! Go have fun with a guy who'd like to take you OUT of your house.

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Wed, 10-28-2009 - 12:15am

Dear All,

Thank you for illuminating everything about this guy. Without you guys, I would probably still in the haze rite now.. There's nothing to wonder about him anymore. I'm running away from him!

Regards,

Ponytail07

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Fri, 11-06-2009 - 12:03am

Dear All,

Aftermath, that guy called me to invite me 4 have lunch with his best friend/partner-in-crime nearby my office last Monday. So I went with the two of them! Before this lunch, he contacted me through blackberry after 'accidentally' bumping me in a party, but I didn't feel like chatting with him so I made the conversation short. Anyway, that Monday night me and my friends went for dinner in his area and he agreed to be at the restaurant too. His best friend/partner-in-crime came to join him at the table with a girl that I already know. I went back and forth between the two tables that night.

The next day, that girl that his partner-in-crime brought asked me to go to a fashion show the next day. So I went with her. There she told me that she's very upset because she just confirmed something about the guy that she's close with. Then, she told me about the two of them. According to her, the two men fool around with girls. Not only that, they also hire prostitutes often, few times in a week. The only difference between the two of them is that her guy is pressurized by his parents to get married. While my guy, 8 years older than me, isn't and think that the idea of settling down anytime soon is ridiculous. This girl also knows the fact that my guy likes to tell girls about his house and business.

What she told me just confirmed my instinct about this guy. In a way, I am so thankful that someone bothered to tell me the truth about this guy. That night after I met her, this guy sent me a sweet dream message. The funny thing is that there's a way in blackberry system to know if someone is broadcasting a message to more than one person and I knew he sent it not to just me. I laughed and I close his message..