Are you serious?

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Registered: 03-01-2009
Are you serious?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 1:29pm

I don't like this.


I left my husband a year ago because I knew that I didn't love him and it wasn't fair to stay (to make a long story short).

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Registered: 11-29-2006
Mon, 05-18-2009 - 3:00pm
Hi and welcome to the board. I'm sorry you find yourself in this situation, and your theory about his past relationships affecting his decisions now may be on target, but I think the more important question is whether you want to keep trying to make a go of something with him or if you're ready to move on. Only you know what's best for you - is his constant withdrawal like this a dealbreaker for you?

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Registered: 01-05-2006
Tue, 05-19-2009 - 8:27am

Im thinking that he is so used to his free life style that the thought of becoming involved with someone with kids and having an instant family is freaking him out.


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Registered: 03-01-2009
Tue, 05-19-2009 - 4:00pm

Complicated is an understatement. Maybe you're right. Maybe I'm not ready for the dating world yet. Does it get any better? Maybe I'll never be ready for it. Maybe it's just not for me.


You could be right and I can understand how the instant family thing would be overwhelming for sure. Just from the things he's said I think he's ready to settle down. Just because he's ready doesn't mean it's not gonna freak him out a little though.


I can stick through all of that. I'm really very patient and understanding. But I don't know

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Registered: 01-05-2006
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 8:21am

Its most likely when he said he was ready to settle down what he had in his mind was get married then have children.


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Registered: 03-01-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 11:19am
I guess I'm gonna give him a call today. I'll probably get his voicemail (he's cutting hay) so I'm figuring out what to say in a few sentences. I'll let you know. Thanks for the input!