Attracted to a friend.. what to do?

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Attracted to a friend.. what to do?
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Sun, 03-15-2009 - 2:54pm

I've been attracted to this man ever since I first met him. I was in a relationship then, but that's been over for a little while now. Ever since that ended, I've been having more feelings for this new man. I know he has some kind of feelings for me.. I just don't know what exactly. We were out drinking one time and I ended up sleeping over at his place, but nothing happened, not even a kiss. He was a perfect gentleman. I slept in his bed while he slept on the couch. My best friend says that he seems interested in me and if I ask him out she doubts he'll say no. But I don't want to ruin our friendship though. But I am so incredible attracted to him. Sometimes when he looks at me a just melt. One problem is, he is 9 years younger than I am (32 and 23.) And I accept the fact that it may not work. The attraction between us is just overwhelming me and I would take the chance..

I'm so confused. I don't know what to do! Should I go for it or no?

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Registered: 01-05-2006
Mon, 03-16-2009 - 1:30pm

9 yrs to me is not much of an age difference, however since he is only 23 I would be concerned because he still has a lot of maturing to do and "sewing his oats" if you get what I mean.


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Registered: 02-22-2007
Tue, 03-17-2009 - 1:10pm
i say go for it! i am 39 and have been dating a man who is 20 for 4 months. it has been great. he doesnt have a problem with the age thing, but i tend to have issues with it. for instance, if we are at walmart and he holds my hand, i feel like everyone is staring and talking. but for the most part, our relationship is good. i love being with him. i say take a chance. you wont know until you do. if you don't take the chance, you may be missing out on the best thing that couldve happened, and you will always wonder what if...
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Registered: 07-17-2007
Tue, 03-17-2009 - 3:46pm

Thanks for your input gals! I've already thought through the consequences of dating a younger man. And, at this point, I think the risks are worth it! I REALLY like this man. He's great!

We maybe going out on Friday night. He is out of town and is unsure if he will be back for Friday. It really sounds like he wants to go out with me though, yea! I'm having a really hard week and I told him that I wanted to go out and get drunk to forget about my problems :)

Anyhow, thanks for the input and I will keep you updated on the situation!