Attracted to older men. Am I weird?
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|Thu, 06-15-2006 - 7:57pm|
This is my 1st time single as an adult, so bare with me!
I have a serious crush on a cast member of the show I'm in. Actually, I found out he got cast in BOTH of the shows I'm in (one of them hasn't started rehersals yet). It feels awesome! To look at him, you would think he was in his early-mid 30's. He's very respectful (something my STBX struggled w/), open, genuine, and we share a lot in common (theater interests, singing, morals, etc). He's become a pretty good friend and I look forward to getting to know him better. He is currently dating someone in my age group (she's 47) and she's putting him through things I went through w/ my STBX years ago.
For the record (and not to toot my own horn) but I've always been more mature than the general stat in my age group, so I mesh best w/ guys 5+ years older than me. He is 15 years my senior (though I had no clue until recently and we've been in rehersals for a couple months together). He usually doesn't date younger women, but made an exception w/ this girl, and, as far as I can see, isn't happy.
Right now, I'm just being there as a friend, but I'm noticing it's interesting how I find, even scanning through personals, I'm more attracted overall to men 10 years older than me.
It feels great to have a crush, even if he doesn't respond back. He's a gentleman and it's been great getting to know him and getting that respect I DESERVE!
I think that I'm attracted to older guys because I really want to have a partner who is ready to be a partner, and is ready to be a family man. Someone who gives as much as he takes. For example, I've decided in the last year that an international adoption is really right for me. Being adopted myself, it just feels right! Granted, I'm thinkin' in the next 4-6 years, but it's a plan I have for myself. Any man in my life would need to share that dream w/ me, or I am willing to go through the trials of single parenthood (it means THAT much to me). It's not a dream I am willing to sacrifice. Also, I find that most of my interests are not typical of my age group. They are typical of an older set, by about 10 years. I am also looking at financial stability. I want a man who can take care of himself (as I make more money than most people I know my age, and can handle myself and for years in my marriage I was the breadwinner by default as my STBX couldn't hold a job).