Can something happen, or is it a lost cause?

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Registered: 12-19-2006
Can something happen, or is it a lost cause?
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Tue, 11-02-2010 - 10:27am

Here's my dilemma; last week I started talking to this guy I met on a dating site online.

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Registered: 06-07-2004
Tue, 11-02-2010 - 1:02pm

What's done is done. You can't go back and undo the deed. I don't think there is any way you can make him "want you more". He either likes you or he doesn't. You should not do anything that is not being yourself. He either likes you as yourself or there is no point is going any further or trying other things. If he doesn't, then there are plenty of other men who will like you for you. All you can do is spend time with him, do things together, and if things work out they work out andi f they don't you move on and find someone they do workout with.

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Registered: 12-19-2006
Tue, 11-02-2010 - 2:13pm

Frankly, I am not ashamed that I slept with him.

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Registered: 06-07-2004
Tue, 11-02-2010 - 3:48pm

I agree, it is best to see what happens and not to over analyze and overthink what you should or should not have done. Time will tell if things work out.

I don't agree that destiny has any kind of plan for anybody and that you can't change it no matter what. I believe you make things happen for yourself to a large degree. Things of course do happen to you that you cannot control also. If I have no control over things in my life then why even get out of bed in the morning. By that logic, if you die of dehydration as you lie there, then I guess it was meant to be.