Confusing behavior has gotten to me...

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Registered: 09-10-2004
Confusing behavior has gotten to me...
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Wed, 01-06-2010 - 10:28am

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 01-06-2010 - 11:00am
OK, it's him, it's not you. This guy is very strange. To recap, you met him before Thanksgiving, so in over a month now you have been in the same town & he has not made any attempt to see you or even talk to you on the phone. For me, I get annoyed at texting instead of talking. Maybe cause I'm older--teens don't seem to mind it, but I don't have a phone w/ a full keyboard, so it takes longer to text than it would to email or IM. Plus w/ text you can't hear someone's emotions in their voice, so I think it could cause more misunderstandings. I think it's weird that he would text you so late at night, and also that he would get annoyed that you don't text him right back. What are you supposed to be sitting by the phone at all times like you have no life? And he's 37 & lives w/ his mom? What's up w/ that? Does he have a job? I just think that's strange unless it means that he has so little money, and how would that be good for you? Plus the chronic stomach problems--if he can never eat, is that going to be fun to go out w/ him? I think you should remember the good time you had at the game but otherwise, he doesn't seem to have a lot of potential. If he really liked you, why wouldn't he have tried to have a date since you met?
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Registered: 01-06-2010
Wed, 01-06-2010 - 11:45am

I had a similar situation & it turned out that he was in a relationship. Like you, I also tend to get anxious & obsessive about that kind of thing BUT I finally came to terms with the fact that he obviousely wasn't that into me, otherwise, he would have made time for me. Actions speak louder than words so regardless of what he says, what matters is what he's doing (or not doing).


Another thing I've learned... For every man who is "not that into you" there are 5 more who are.....

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Wed, 01-06-2010 - 12:56pm

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Wed, 01-06-2010 - 4:51pm

That situation played out when I found out he had a girlfriend & thats why he had made no effort to see me.

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Thu, 01-07-2010 - 10:59am

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Registered: 11-09-2009
Fri, 01-08-2010 - 12:28pm
I would move on if i were you