Cross your fingers

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Cross your fingers
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Sun, 09-27-2009 - 11:36pm

Date number four last night with Single Dad went beautifully. I went a little further than I had originally planned...but he texted twice and called once today, so it must have been OK!

I am trying really hard to stay focused and sort of detached for a while so I don't fall into this emotionally at this point. He's already off the site, I had hidden my profile because I don't have any time to really see anyone else, but we hadn't discussed it at all.

But, gee, for a guy I really wasn't sure I even wanted to reply to (he emailed me first on OLD, he's 10 years older, his profile was kind of bland, even the first phone call was kind of bland...), he is knocking my socks off with his kindness and sense of humor. His child rearing philosophy is almost exactly like mine, same music taste, same book tastes, both trying to raise kids alone, he respects my time with my kids and the fact that the kids have to come first. So easy to talk to.

After all the drama with Toxic Man, and the millions of first meets that went no where, this is really, really nice.

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Registered: 08-19-2004
Mon, 10-05-2009 - 9:06am

My last go-around with match was dreary as well which is why I'm hesitant to shell out more money for OLD. In three months, I ended up with not a single in-person meet but added to my collection of ghosts, which wasn't my intention :)

(Sorry for the thread hijack. Bad habit of mine.)

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 10-05-2009 - 10:33am
I do agree w/ you that when something is working, you don't really have to think about it much-it just falls into place. I remember when I started dating my 2nd DH, we just started spending more time together naturally. Of course we had to work around when I had my kids and he didn't have his DD on Thurs. nights--so we started spending every Thurs. night together. Then I would be going over on the weekends when I didn't have my kids, then it would be all the time, then we started spending all our weekends together w/ our kids. We never had to have a discussion about where is this relationship going--it just went. Too bad he turned out to be a bad DH, but that's another story.

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