dating again

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Registered: 08-02-2004
dating again
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Fri, 04-10-2009 - 12:03am

~Apologies for cross posting...trying to find the right place~

I have been been working on myself for the last few years and have learned a lot and feel so much more secure in myself.

I have decided I'm ready to date and have my first one lined up this coming Monday. I met him online and we exchanged emails and chatted and now will meet. I have done this a few times before and will be completely safe (as in the whole meeting people online stuff) but am worried how I will fair emotionally.

I'm trying to remember that I should not rely on him to supply the boundaries and that mine must come from me.

We have so many things in common and I want to remain balanced this time.

I also want to have a few dates with more then one person before i jump into a relationship full on which has been my regular style.

A fast recap of me dating in the past:

We meet
Healthy for about a month
obsession starts
I change to make them like me
everything goes to hell
breakup..usually messy
I then spend years trying to figure it all out and love myself again

Any ideas or experiences people have with this would be very helpful...thank you:)

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-05-2006
In reply to: ladygold2004
Fri, 04-10-2009 - 1:07pm

One I can think of is dont have sex to early on in a possible relationship.


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