Dating a friend's brother???
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|Sat, 06-17-2006 - 2:43am|
Now, I know I'm not the ONLY one w/ this issue. How have you folks handled this in the past??? (Sorry if this is a repeat from the Surviving Divorce board - just want all the input I can get!)
So, RENT is coming to town and I just got an e-mail about a great dinner package deal! Of course, I don't want to go alone! So I'm reserving the package for 2.
I'm thinking of who I'd like to take and one of the people is the elder brother of a gal pal of mine. Generally, this wouldn't be a problem, but the gal pal is younger than I am and a tad immature... I love her, but we're not on the same level about a lot of things and I don't know how she'd feel about me going out w/ her brother, even if it is just friendly to get to know him better. He just seemed like a nice guy that I enjoyed being around during her wedding last month - I am not looking for anything really serious right now. Or even 1/2 way serious! Just kinda as friends sort of date.
How would you handle the situation? I'd probably have to get his phone number from her and I'm sure she'd want to know why. I do have a policy of being upfront and honest w/ my friends, so I'm thinking of just coming right out and saying "You know, I think your brother is a really great guy. I would like to get to know him better. Do you have his phone number so that I can connect with him?"
This friend also was rather shocked by our divorce (seeing as I was the maid of honor and my ex was the best man at their wedding 3 days before he packed his boxes and was on his way out, so they came home from their honeymoon to the news that we had split). I think she grieved the loss of "the foursome" that we were as much as I did.
Any thoughts? I just want to make sure she's okay with it.
And who knows! He could turn me down! But I sort of doubt he would, just from the few times I've talked with him during the wedding preparations and all that.