Dating More Than One Person

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Dating More Than One Person
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Fri, 03-21-2008 - 10:17am

What are your thoughts on this? I started dating again recently after a break-up. I don't want another relatiosnship right away. Now I am not talking about sex with anyone just dating more than one person. What are your thoughts and what is the etiquette?


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Wed, 04-02-2008 - 10:37pm
Do you think he'll still come to visit you
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Thu, 04-03-2008 - 6:28am
Probably, as he has already goten his ticket and visa.
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Registered: 03-19-2008
Sat, 04-05-2008 - 9:38pm

Hey bosox lady,

Sox fan here too!

I got out of a relationship 6 weeks ago and dont want another one for a long time. I like dating a few different guys. I see one regularly and 2 others rarely. I like it that way. But I think that once one of them becomes physical then I will try to make it exclusive.

Is there an etiquette? I dont know.

The guy I just stopped seeing wanted exclusivity from day one on. But he was possessive. I should have seen the warnings.

Laurie

anonymous
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Registered: 03-19-2008
Sat, 04-05-2008 - 10:06pm

This is a fun thread. But I should have read all the posts before I posted.

Maybe they are brooding Rockies fans.

By the sound of your descriptions of guys you sound very excited about number 2. Oh and do they know you see other guys? I am in a quandary about this. None of mine have discussed exclusivity with me, well one did but thats a long story, but I havent told any of them about the others or even mentioned that I see others. But then again I dont want an exclusive relationship anytime soon.

Laurie

anonymous
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Sun, 04-06-2008 - 10:01am

Casual dating guy is gone.


Jamacian guy knows I an back with my EX, but still wants to visit. He feels that there is still a chance that we can bridge the fact we live in 2 different countries with visits and fall in love.


Ex knows that I was with a guy in Jamaica and he is planning to visit me. While he is not thrilled with it, he relaized this occurred BEFORE he reentered my life, and that it is up to him to rebuild with me if he wants exclusivity. On my part, I have agreed to put 100% , as has he into in and we have agreed NOT to date others locally.

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Sun, 04-06-2008 - 10:50am

So is guy number 3 out of the picture?

Laurie

anonymous
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Sun, 04-06-2008 - 10:59am
Yep, he got mad when he found pictures of me and Jamaica guy on my entertainment center. They were in a pile waiting to be placed in a phot album. We were only dating for 2 weeks and I met him after my vacation, but he reacted jealously. I told him that he had no right to be nagry at sometime that occurred before we met. Oh well
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Sun, 04-06-2008 - 11:56am
Sorry about that. Some guys get really jealous. Even if it occurred after you met then he still should not be angry since you were never exclusive with him. Insecurity I think is the cause of that. Wanting to be exclusive right away and moving way too fast in a relationship is a red flag. I just got out of an abusive relationship where the guy was like that. Wish I would have seen the red flag earlier not after 7 months.
anonymous
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Sun, 04-06-2008 - 6:06pm
It's fine, I am not upset about it. I know that you are right that wanting exclusiveness right away and being jealous of the past are red flags.

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