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| Thu, 02-26-2009 - 3:19pm |
Hi all,
my question seems very elementary and I'm a bit embarrassed for asking but please indulge me.
What does one do on 3rd date going forward.

You could try actually being honest w/ someone and saying that you don't want to have sex until...whatever you feel is the right time, whether it be marriage, engagement, dating for a certain period of time. If a guy really likes you, he would agree to wait until you are comfortable. If he's only out for sex, you'll find out soon enough.
The comedian Steve Harvey just wrote a new book, which I was browsing in the book store. I can't remember the title, but part of it is "act like a lady." In his opinion, women should wait for a 90 day probation period (he got that from his first job) to have sex because he says that a guy will really work at a relationship if he wants to be w/ you where if he gets what he wants too soon, then there's nothing to work for. I don't know if I really believe that, cause frankly, I was married twice and both times, I had sex w/ the guy pretty early, but things turned out ok.
I actually don't think it's too hard to have dates in public--there are many things to do and they don't all cost money. How old are you? I mean I remember dating back in high school and they were all outside--besides the movies or dinner, you could go hear a band, play a sport, go to a museum, there are plenty of things to do. And I do agree, that if you want to hold off on having sex, it's better not to be alone in your or his apt.
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