Dating Update

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Registered: 05-06-2006
Dating Update
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Sun, 06-25-2006 - 4:15pm

So I thought I'd tell you all that things have been looking up. A friend of mine thinks it's the summer, that guys want to date in the summer more than spring. In any case, I can't really complain.

When I joined Match.com, I joined for six months and figured that if I could get three dates (even just "meetings for coffee") before the end of the six months I would have gotten my money's worth. What I wanted was to get a chance to go on a few dates so that I could feel (a) that some men might be attracted to me even though I am 50 and overweight and (b) that I could carry on my part of a "first date" without dissolving into adolescent-like idiocy.

I not only got that, but all three of my dates were interested in me to want to meet again. I turned down the first two for a variety of reasons, but I went on a second date with the third guy and we are planning another date for next weekend. This guy is probably not going to be "the love of my life" and I may have to pull back and stop seeing him if he starts getting too interested too quickly, but for now I am having fun.

Meanwhile there is a guy in real life who has made a point of having lunch with me several times and who when he doesn't run into me in the normal course of our lives seems to be making an effort to "run into me." It may take him a while to suggest a real date (and I may actually take the lead on this, if I can find a way to do it casually) but things look good.

So I have a couple of guys I like more or less interested in me and I had a chance of a couple of other guys that didn't interest me. (One of these was a real disappointment, because he'd really been terrific online and on the phone. But it was a learning experience.) Also, I've now exchanged e-mail with at least a dozen guys I've met online (either through Match, or its partner site Chemistry or through E-Harmony) and although a few of them unaccountably disappeared after planning to meet (another learnng experience) on the whole I feel I've gained valuable "21st century dating" experience through getting to know these guys a little.

All in all, I feel pretty good about my dating possibilities at the moment. Considering that I am 50, overweight, over-educated, and super-picky, I'm doing really well.

Elsa

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: elarisa
Sun, 06-25-2006 - 7:30pm
Hi Elsa... I'm glad that you're feeling good about things.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 05-06-2006
In reply to: elarisa
Sun, 06-25-2006 - 9:27pm

Well, I *am* overweight. But fortunately it doesn't seem as big a handicap as I feared.

:)