deciphering....

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Registered: 04-11-2007
deciphering....
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Sun, 04-12-2009 - 9:31am

can anyone advise me on what to do here!


I was on a project and met a guy who works for another company. Really cool, late 20's handsome too, Kept it professional totally and just before christmas he hunted me down on a social networking site and added me as a friend. I was surprised but i accepted.


I moved to another company before christmas and was meant to leave the country but didnt, he messaged me a few times to wish a happy birthday and said we should meet for drinks but somehow it didnt happen. Until..i went out to a club one night as he told me he would be there and to come say hi. we got lost in the club so didnt meet up as it was so packed we couldnt move. At the end of the night i texted him and went around to his place. He asked me to stay after a few beers and i offered to stay on couch but he insisted i stay in his bed wearing his shirt etc.


He tried it on a few times during night but it didnt feel right sleeping together so soon so i refused. Next morning I had to go, so left promptly. I texted him to say thanks and hope to see him soon. he said we would ikm saure. i borrowed his tshirt and agreed to drop it back later in the week. When i did drop it up, he opened the door and planted two kisses on my face was sweet and asked if i was going clubbing that night. i said i had plans and off i went. I then stupidly texted him 2 hours later and asked him we 'should go out sometime'. He said for sure! and he would let me know but then didngt agree on a date. I could see his friends were over from germany and he went out partying and did not call. I was pis**ed and deleted him from my social network site which im pretty sure he prob noticed.


Am i a total idiot or what?> should i have cooled the jets a little and gave him more time to call or am i being sensible?


I went to a club he was there yesterday and i was with another guy, i looked my best and know he was looking at me intensely. The new guy was all over me and we were in a private bed near the beach. He actually walked all the way down to where we were and stood there with his best friend and looked at my guy who i brought as well as me. I just ignored him. what else am i supposed to do?


I really like this guy but is he not interested at all or is he just a player! any advice would be helpful as well as observations


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Registered: 01-05-2006
Sun, 04-12-2009 - 10:25am

he said we would ikm saure>I dont have a clue what this means.


I then stupidly texted him 2 hours later and asked him we 'should go out sometime'. He said for sure! and he would let me know but then didngt agree on a date. >this was not stupid and you got his answer that he wanted to go out on a date with you.


I could see his friends were over from germany and he went out partying and did not call. I was pis**ed and deleted him from my social network site which im pretty sure he prob noticed.>you expected him to give you attention and some time when he had friends from another country he was entertaining?


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Registered: 04-11-2007
Mon, 04-13-2009 - 2:16am

Ok Yankee! Thanks for response. It is quite a response and of course maybe you are right on some aspects however, this is the whole point. I never usually act like this around guys.


This is the truth-


1. the reason i didnt sleep with him straight off was because i didnt want to rush it and regret/ruin it as i actually liked him alot.


2. When someone says they will message me and let me know when they want to go out i usually expect they would bother - or at least send a text to say 'i cant go out this weekend as my friends are over' isnt that called manners?


3. Yes it was childish and hasty deleting him that quick from my facebook.


I really like this guy and would love to go out on a date with him but the fact is he didnt call...is there any way in the world i can put it right. I know he will be at a club same time as me this weekend- should i say hello or leave it.


The reason why i am so careful is beacuse he seems to have a lot of women around him all the time and i get the vibe he uses some of them. Is it wrong to use your intellect and protect yourself from that?

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Registered: 01-05-2006
Mon, 04-13-2009 - 10:35am

isnt that called manners?>yes it is good manners and he should have done that.


Well now you know that he lacks manners, your gut is telling you he uses women.


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