Definng a relationship?

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Registered: 11-20-2006
Definng a relationship?
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Wed, 04-01-2009 - 6:58am
I met a guy off of an online dating website. We started dating a month ago. We get along extremely well, he is italian (as am I) which is actually quite nice,wants kids, he is a talented, successful, funny man. And we instantly clicked. This past weekend, we moved on to sleeping together. He took me to a 5 star restaurant and then he reserved us a 5 star hotel room for our first time. It was probably the best night of my sexual existence lol. He is so sweet and he can't keep his hands off of me even before we moved it forward. Holding hands, walking with his hand on my hip,his hand on my leg in the car etc. He even came up behind me when I was brushing my teeth a couple weeks ago and commented on what a good looking couple we would make. My question is this....Now that we have been together sexually would it be too bold of me to ask if he is going to continue to date other people? I just think that I should because it is my emotional and health at risk. And he still has his ad up and checks it:( He calls me every night after he gets off work and we talk for hours, he text me and emails me through the day...everything else about it says he really likes me...and he isn't rich so I wouldn't think that if he didn't like me he wouldn't spend that kind of cash on making it special...Now the emotions are raging because of the sex as well....What do I do? I don't want to scare him away with all this girly bull crap...But I don't want to set myself up for heart break either....
Gina
Gina
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Registered: 01-05-2006
Wed, 04-01-2009 - 8:52am

Hi, finding out if he wanted an exclusive relationship with you should have been before you had sex with him.


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Wed, 04-01-2009 - 2:14pm
Hi there
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Registered: 12-02-2007
Thu, 04-02-2009 - 10:14am
There are important things need to be considered before sleeping with a guy early on that most women do not pay importance of: 1.)If you barely know the guy, you're simply clueless about his sex life whether he's having multiple sex partners which possibly makes him a STD carrier.. even condom use is not as safe as we might think it is. HIV can penetrate latex condoms. And its a fact. 2.)You have a chance to get pregnant even if you pop a contraceptive pill or use condom. Are you ready to get pregnant from a guy you barely know? 3.) Sleeping together too early might lead him to think you're easy and that you do this with each man you date..which compromises your self worth. Those are just 3 of the few important facts women often do not see. I agree about what yankee said that having an exclusive relationship with him should come before sex. He might think he can get free sex from you while it might cost him few bucks when he hires one. Again, these are just possibilities. In your case, first three to six months are the best foot forward months and you only know his real character when you're a keen observer. One month to have sex may not be a good idea. And asking him where the relationship is going might make you appear needy. Holding a man to get into a relationship with you just because you two have sex might make him feel obliged or caught in the situation and that's totally unnatural (I'm talking generally).. But what's done is done..no looking back.Its totally out of your control. The least thing you could do is to make him realize your worth by not forcing him to get into an exclusive relationship with you. I suggest you try to live an exciting life and try not to focus on him. Give him space and leave space for your self too. This will amplify his interest on you . ;)
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Registered: 01-15-2009
Sat, 04-04-2009 - 9:39am
hey I am in the same position as u.