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| Sat, 10-10-2009 - 6:04pm |
Well I got tired of sitting around waiting for the guy I went out with a week ago Wed. to call & ask me to lunch as he said he would (more than once, by the way). I emailed him using the good excuse to tell him that I finished his friend's divorce case (I'm a lawyer & he referred this friend to me). So he emailed me back in a friendly chatty way, but didn't mention anything about going to lunch. So I figure he's also going to be one of these guys who might have time for me every few months, if that. Gee, it would have been to easy to find someone I liked and not have to go through OLD. The fact is that I wouldn't mind having a relationship right now where we didn't see each other that much cause I don't have that much free time w/ a 14 yr old at home and an ex who seems to keep changing the visitation, but I could only be ok w/ that once I knew the person actually liked me. Right now I still have no idea if he's even ever going to call back, so it's kind of frustrating & disappointing. I mean he was the one who suggested several times that we should get together again, not me. So why even mention it if you don't mean it? It could have just been a case of 2 old friends getting together for a one-time thing and leave it at that and just say good bye, it was nice to see you.

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I would wait. Sometimes, things come up in his life that he is not going to make everyone aware of - and not always is our time schedule like someone else. It is very possible he hasn't been able to fit it in just yet.
And if he never does, he wasn't worth the worry anyway. It will work out for the best. You will look more of the confident, independent woman if you wait and be more involved in your own life (clubs, programs, school....other dates ;).
I could actually think of a number of valid reasons why he hasn't called:
1. he did say that he was going on vacation some time in Oct. w/ his brother--I don't know what week
2. his work schedule is pretty busy, but I actually have no idea what it is since he doesn't work a regular job--he is self employed doing video production and stuff like that so I could imagine that between jobs he could have a lot of free time, then when he gets a video to do, he might be really busy.
3. he told me when we went out to eat that he had cracked a molar and had to have all this dental work done and even that night, he could only eat soft food.
Or it could be none of the above. You know how some people will say "I'll call you" and maybe that night they have every intention that they will do it, but then they never get around to it. I even have an old friend who will do that. When we talk, she will always say "let's get together" but it could turn out to be a year before she actually does something about it. Yet if I called her tomorrow and said do you want to go out in the next couple of weeks, she would go. But people get involved w/ their own lives.
So obviously I am not a big priority to him. It has only been a little over 2 weeks so it's really not that long. It's possible that he might still call but I just don't feel like being the stalker. If he does follow up, then I would at least know he has some interest, where if I am always the one asking him, I would think that maybe he is just being polite. I was just talking about him w/ my friend at dinner tonight. I was saying how he easily could have just said it was nice seeing you again and left it at that, yet he said multiple times that we were going to get together again. So why say something like that if you don't really mean it? It seemed like more than the typical guy "I'll call you" that doesn't mean anything, which is why I got hopeful. But who knows what is in someone else's mind?
Thanks that is exactly what
I have seen it too!
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