Do I waste my time with this guy?

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Registered: 11-14-2006
Do I waste my time with this guy?
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Wed, 11-26-2008 - 11:59am

About two months I met a guy through an online dating service. We spoke on the phone for about 3 hours and got along great. At the end of the call, he didn't ask to meet me or if he could call me again

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Registered: 01-05-2006
Wed, 11-26-2008 - 12:25pm

Yep you are wasting your time, block his texts and emails and move on.



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Registered: 05-06-2008
Fri, 11-28-2008 - 9:46am

I had that happen to me. When I finally said, "Enough", and pretty much told him he had to ask me out or stop with the texts, he texted me back saying "sorry, I have met someone else and want to see where it goes." WTF? So I texted him back saying I felt sorry for the girl, because if she knew that he was texting ME several times the night before, she might not think he was that nice a guy.

It sounds like he is stringing you along because maybe he has a wife, a girlfriend, or he's just trying to add to his stable.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 12-04-2008 - 4:41pm
IDK, this is 2008, not 1950. I guess by telling you that he wants to go on a date, he is saying he is interested, isn't he? Sure it would be nice if he made all the plans, but maybe he thinks he is being polite. I guess if you think that other things about him sound promising, maybe I would have used that opening for you to say, yes, why don't we meet at Starbucks after work on Friday? Maybe he thinks that if he made a big plan, then you would say that you weren't available or didn't want to go out to dinner, or wherever he decided and he's letting you call the shots. Of course, after that one time, I think I'd expect him to show a little initiative. I wouldn't want to have to make all the plans either.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-14-2006
Thu, 12-04-2008 - 8:13pm

If he doesn't have the confidence to put himself out there and risk rejection by asking me on a proper date, why should I want to waste my time with him? I never picked up the phone to call or texted

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 12-05-2008 - 10:43am
I guess if you're not that interested in him, then it doesn't really matter. My feeling was that if this is a guy you are interested in and he is giving signals that he is interested in you, then he should be encouraged.
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Registered: 06-05-2008
Sat, 12-13-2008 - 8:39am