Don't you hate waiting for a guy to call you?

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Don't you hate waiting for a guy to call you?
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Fri, 04-22-2011 - 6:55pm

I met a guy from OLD on sat & we went out on Wed. on our first real date.

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Registered: 01-02-2008

Hi Music;

Yes; I hate that and it feels like third grade stuff doesnt it?

Did you leave it open or did you ask him to call you?

When I have gone out on a date in the past and I like the guy or I dont I usually follow up with an email and say; Oh; I had a nice time with you on our date. I am wondering if you would like to go out again.

If he doesnt respond let it go.. If he does respond then try to make another date. I would wait about a week but that is

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Registered: 11-28-1999

When he was getting out of the car (he had walked me to my car in the big parking lot and then I drove him over to his) he said "I'll call you" and I said "good" or "I hope so" or something like that.

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Registered: 01-02-2008

Hi;

Well; you sound like you did everything right with the guy so now you have to wait and see what happens. Only thing with men is they have to be smacked upside the head alot.. I mean this guy might not even remember he went out on a date with you (lol) and he needs to be reminded.

He could also be dating other women..

The dating game is so different now and since we are older its even tougher to figure it all out.

If the guy doesnt call I would send an email and say thanks for the date and when are we getting together again.You have nothing to lose except your pride (lol)

I dont know about you but I aint gettin any younger and if there is a potential man on the hook i am reeling him in if possible.

Hang in Music.. ITS GOING TO BE A BUMPY RIDE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 10-16-2006

I am going to respectfully disagree with freeatlast--don't call him. You already told him you wanted him to. If he doesn't call, it means he's not interested, or he's dead.

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Registered: 11-28-1999

I am going to sit on my hands on this one--I am going by the principle of He's Just not that into you--if a guy really wants to date you, he will call.

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Registered: 01-02-2008

I have read that book and alot of those books on relationships but sometimes I think they werent written for women over 50.

Isnt he is not that into you relate to when you have already had a few dates and he doesnt call or bother with you but he led you on for awhile?

I guess to each

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Registered: 11-28-1999

I try to be somewhere in the middle--I will assert myself up to a point, like after our first meet when we were talking on the phone, I was the one to suggest getting together Wed. night because i knew I had the night free, so I didn't wait for him to suggest another date.

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Registered: 01-02-2008

Oh; So yes he

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Registered: 11-28-1999

I have an even more weird story from OLD--I was emailing a guy prob. in Jan, didn't hear from him for a while (weeks), then he contacted me again, finally we made plans to meet.

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Registered: 06-07-2004

I think some of his other dating prospects got in the way and they looked more interesting but they did not pan out for him and went for his fall back plan which is you and maybe another woman or two. But then again he got sidetracked by another prospect which he pursued and left you high and dry once again. Thats how I interpret it. I have had similar ditchings performed upon me in the past.

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