Is the ex interested in friendship or more?

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Registered: 11-14-2005
Is the ex interested in friendship or more?
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Mon, 10-11-2010 - 5:39pm

I dated this amazing guy throughout the summer. We hit it off and both thought we had something really good together. (I'm 30 and he's 38, if it makes a difference.) We weren't sleeping together because I'd recently decided I wanted to start waiting until relationships were at the bf/gf status, if you will, as I find myself getting too attached too quickly if sex is involved.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 10-11-2010 - 6:53pm

I don't think there is any way to find out what he is thinking except by asking him.

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Registered: 09-23-2009
Wed, 10-13-2010 - 9:33am

Men have very different ways of thinking than women, so you cannot guess what their intentions are by knowing what you would do in the same situation. What would I do if a man took off 3 days after we decided to be exclusive? I would say don't let the door hit your ass on the way out. Have some self worth. If a man isn't 100% confident in wanting monogamy with you, then move on until you find someone who wants to be with you, and you only, and not take off after he gets the goods from you.

I would stop contact with him and move on to dating others. Once you've had sex with a man, he can, and will text you, etc., hoping to get you at a weak moment so that you will have sex with him again without being in a commited relationship. If you haven't noticed, most men are not as caring as women, and don't really care that they would be leading you on, etc. I've heard that story a million times, and experienced it myself. If he wanted to get back together with you, he would've said so. Even if he wanted to, I wouldn't risk it. Stop grasping for straws, and find a more worthy man.

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Registered: 11-14-2005
Wed, 10-13-2010 - 9:16pm
Thanks for your reply! As a side note, we never slept together.