Feeling awkward and need some advice!

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Registered: 10-06-2007
Feeling awkward and need some advice!
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Fri, 04-03-2009 - 9:29pm

I just want someone’s advice even just a sounding board to help me from feeling so ridiculous, I feel part mortified and part utterly embarrassed, caused by myself and my meddling mother!

I confided in my mother that there was a certain someone I liked; he works in a restaurant that we (family) have frequented for years. I was quite happy keeping it as a fantasy; my mother was (obviously) not. As we were leaving the restaurant last week she was saying goodbye and I walked off to the car, I did not know at the time that she was asking one of his colleagues if he had a girlfriend and then handed my number to the colleague and said for him (the man I like) to call me the next day.

I knew nothing of this until I get a missed call and then a text saying that he was given my number and didn’t know exactly why he was given it and asked me to call him to clear it up. It took me an hour to call after I confronted my mum and then panicked as to what to say, I was quite cross to say the least. The call could have gone better and I admitted to liking him and I stuttered throughout the conversation. He did ask if I wanted to join him to play tennis and then coffee and after me saying 'I hope you don't feel awkward' numerous times he said 'no it's a nice surprise'. I'm so sure I must've sounded like such a goon. He also mentioned ‘well I have your number now’.

Anyway we are meeting this Sunday and I will see him on Saturday evening (family are having dinner at the restaurant) to organise it. I haven’t spoken to him since Sunday nor messaged. Should I? I feel if I do anything else I will appear desperate, which I'm not, I'm perfectly happy being single.

I'm 22 and he’s around 28 so its not like I’m inexperienced but I have never opened up about having feelings for someone before I have even gotten to know someone and it has left me feeling completely exposed.

I feel that I am obsessing about this and essentially making a mountain out of a mole hill, but as I did not and could not control the situation, I feel I have completely and in a way involuntarily opened myself up and now want to hide!

Thanks for reading - any thoughts would be so helpful as now I am feeling increasingly nervous about seeing him.

Poppie

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Registered: 03-19-2009
Sat, 04-04-2009 - 8:07pm

I should show your post to my daughter to prove to her how lucky she is to have me for a mother. ;)

Seriously, your mum put you in an awkward situation, but you can save it by relaxing and NOT telling the guy again that you find it awkward. When you get together with him, treat him like a friend. If he asks you out after this one time, and you still want to go out with him, play it cool. Don't phone or text him any more than he phones or texts you (preferably less--let him do the chasing).

It's going to be ok.

Have fun!

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-06-2007
Thu, 04-09-2009 - 1:47pm

Thanks for your reply -

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Registered: 03-19-2009
Sat, 04-11-2009 - 1:05am
It's too bad that you didn't hit it of, but I always say that each date is "practice" for the next one. Good luck!